I'm 21 and my partner is 23 we have a two year old and I feel like we are bad parents. Here's why.
Every week with out fail my son will have a sleep over at my inlaws. He loves them and they love him and get sad if they don't see him. Which I love a lot. But I feel like I am judged for it by my brother inlaw and his girlfriend.
My son is full on and cries a lot in the afternoon and usually by the end of the week we are tired and exhausted and need a break. Most of the time we don't even use the night to go out we usually go to bed by 8:30 and get a good nights rest.
I just wonder if what we are doing is bad parenting and if it is wrong of us to dump him with the inlaws each week even if they want him and would keep him if I gave them a chance.
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Your bil doesn't have kids does he?
I don't see anything wrong with your son having a sleepover at his grandparents once a week hun. "Dumping" him would be just turning up their unannounced & leaving him without any discussion or reason. It's different if he wasn't happy too be their or your in laws were shitty about it - but if everyone is happy continue too enjoy the little break & continue being greatful your able too do so. As for your BIL he isn't the one looking after your son so I don't see why it's any of his business. Your a good mum for allowing your son a healthy relationship with his grandparents x
If I lived close to family and they would offer to look after my sons once a week, is accept that offer with open arms!!!
Does your brother in law have kids? Sounds like he either has no kids, or is jealous that his don't get to stay over once a week.
How lucky that your child gets to see his grandparents so often!
So no, you're not bad parents.
(You'd be bad parents if you were abusing that privilege)
It's not dumping. It's sounds great. I do the same thing! Refreshed parents = better more engaged parents.
Haha wish I could do the same thing! No your not a bad parent. Lots of parents send their kids to the grandparents for sleepovers whether for work or some time out or a date night, or to just go out and have fun!
Definitely not
My 2yo daughter has a sleepover once a week at my inlaws too
She loves it
They love it
And his mum floats at giving us the break and one night a week we can focus on each other and have an us night
It will stop once school starts (not for another few years haha) Atleast weekly but if she still wants to have sleepovers every 2-3-4 weeks we won't stop her
But while they're young why not
Nothing better than being close to grandparents :)
And nothing wrong with mum and dad having one night a week break
You are definitely not a bad parent :)
It's not like your "dumping" him to someone who won't take care of him, won't give him love etc
I live 10 mins from my in laws and they don't have my children often. Why? Because my husband and I are their parents. We have 3 children ranging from 10 to 3 and one on the way. I'm exhausted 70% of the time but im not handing them over once a week to have a break. My break time is once they are in bed. Maybe you need a better routine?
I'm not saying I'm a super mum or anything. But what are you going to do if they can not look after your child anymore?
Bad parents don't feel guilt, you are young mum not a robot and you are entitled to a break too,..and personally I doubt your in-laws are judging you I just think maybe you have such a low opinion of yourself that u assume everyone else things the same..you got this ?❤