Hi ladies,
I have a very hot headed 10 year old son, who has just hopped off the school bus 3 stops too early, and refused to get back on the bus. Naturally the bus driver had to move on ( my son is unbelievably stubborn, and I do understand how awful the poor bus driver felt )
The bus driver then drove past him about 10 minutes later, and pulled over to request he hop back on the bus, and my ( delightful) son stuck both middle finger up at him.
All of this was just relayed to me by the bus company, concerned for his safety.
My question is, if this was your child, how would you punish him??
Any tips on dealing with a hot tempered child??
As this is not the first incident, we are quite fluent in time outs, deep breathing, calming down, taking away screens/ privileges etc... Just after something a little outside the box I guess.
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would you consider taking him to see a child psychologist? Clearly he is having impulse control issues and can't manage his emotions and he may need more professional strategies to help him
I have one of this personality type kids (maybe worse when you read the following), as expensive as it is I'd seek counciling of some kind, as much as I want to punish this type of behaviour I've found in the past it makes things worse as they just don't care, I've had holes in bed room walls as I've Removed everything but bed and clothes, I've timed out in the hall way and the hall way door got jammed shut and the entire content of the linen cupboard was removed, I've locked him out of the house in the back yard and everything was destroyed with a baseball bat, I've been threatened with the base ball bat (next day I took that bat to work and threw it on the skip), I've been threatened with a knife and have been told I'd be shot with a gun until
I'm dead, I've been hit while sleeping in the middle of the night many times, this all happened before he was 5 yes 5 not 15! He's now 9 and sees a councillor once a month, sometimes they just need someone to talk to that's not family. Anger isn't an easy road and I feel like a failure 99%of the time. Good luck
If he is struggling emotionally, punishing him will do nothing more than pushing him further away. I'm talking from experience, I was the acting out teen raised by a good family. If you can, get the bus driver to talk to him on his own so the bus driver can express his worry for your son so you son can try and understand and respect the position that he put the driver in. Beyond that, you need to find out what's driving your child's behaviour, influence of others or maybe bullying or low self esteem.........,maybe they just feel lost, it's hard at that age to process and understand your feelings xx