I saw the IM ask tonight how many kids everyone has. My gosh you all have so many. I would love to give my daughter a brother or sister but am I the only one who thinks the first year was sooooo hard? Why would I want to put myself through that again? Don't get me wrong, my little girl is the light of my life but my husband and I both agree that it's bloody draining. Am I missing something that you're all seeing?
9 Replies
No i know a lot of people who are traumatised and are done with one. Myself included. Then just as things started to get easier I fell accidentally and it was the easiest thing ever. Each experience can be so different only now i can understand how you can be done or be ready to do it again within three months. Its largely not about you but more all the circumstances that make your experience.
I happily stopped at 1!!
I'd always planned on at least a 3 year age gap if I had been doing it again. I love my son, but it became clear to me I'm very very suited to one.
Every now and then I've thought what if, but sleepless nights, nappy changes and endless feeds are NOT for me. I really prefer kids as they get older and become little more independent and capable. So I just don't feel that clucky baby pull that others feel.
Yeah I was one and done! I hated it!!! Then I fell accidentally and now after being traumatised a second time, I'm two and definitely done- I will make sure there are NO MORE ACCIDENTS!!!
I have 4 kids and after my 4th I completely get it now. My 4th makes the other 3 look like angels. I love her to pieces but fck me dead if she was my first she would be the only 1.
This is perfect! ??
I think the answers have left you with a skewed idea of how many kids people have. The average is just over 2 children per couple
Nooo. I have one. Terrible pregnancy, terrible birth, ironically textbook perfect baby. Love him to bits but I was not lining back up for that shit.
In my case the first 2 years we're really easy with my daughter
The pregnancy (had complications) and Birth (had an emergency c-sec) were the hardest part for me
My daughter latched to the boob straight away
Slept through the night from day one (I had to wake her for feeds)
Transitioned to food so easy
She was always so happy and bubbly
The first time I needed panadol she was just over 1yo
So for me it wasn't hard
And I am really sorry to all the mums that have it tough
But in saying that I'm only weeks away from baby number two and I have a feeling she is going to be an absolute handful
So I may just finally experience how hard being a mum is :)
Oh and my daughter is hitting terrible twos now so I'm scared ;)
I have a three year old son. I never wanted children and then I turned 33, had to make a decision, my partner of fifteen years wanted a baby. I am not a maternal person so it's not for me. I love my child but I don't love being a parent. I find the stress, exhaustion, crying, whining and no freedom too much