Hi there,
I'm about to become a Full time step mum to my fiancé's 3 children, as their BM has decided to move away from town and start a new life (new baby on the way) I have a daughter that a share care of with her dad, My daughter is heartbroken when she leaves me on the Monday to spend the week with her father, she loves him but hates leaving Mum. I'm petrified how she is going to feel when i'm looking after her step siblings full time and not her. Current arrangement is we have all 4 kids together week on/week off. The guilt i feel is breaking my heart, are any other mummies out there a Full time step mum but Part time mum, i also work a full time job. I just need to know that it will be ok....... :(
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Their will be a huge adjustment time for all involved. Make sure you give one on one time to your daughter to reassure her as much as possible.
I can understand how this affects things for you and your daughter, i would try to explain to daughter that she gets two full time parents youll both be there whenever she needs. I know shes jealous the kids get more of your time but try to explain that it would be the same as her staying with her dad and someone not her mum all the time and never seeing her mum. Hopefully help her understand shes lucky she gets to go to her dads and other kids would prefer that too, nobody would choose this, you just make the best of it. Personally i would also make a big point to my daughter of saving special things for when shes there.