UPDATE (husband doesn't want to have sex)

UPDATE on how to cope with my husband not wanting to have sex with me anymore.

I just wanted to thank all the lovely ladies who responded suggesting getting a second opinion on my husband's medication, and whether it was the cause of his sudden lack of sex drive. It gave me the confidence to approach the subject with my husband again, asking him if he was confident in what his doc had said, and if the lack of drive was bothering him.

He admitted to being quite upset and lost about it, and with his doctor's opinion, was left feeling like there was something seriously wrong with him. He said he was becoming quite depressed about it so we decided to get a second opinion from another doctor.

The second doctor said that loss of sex drive was not usually a side affect with his particular medication, but that didn't mean it was impossible. Suggested going off the medication for a week to see if there was a change. Within 4 days he became a totally different person, happier, more energetic, playful, and a hormone driven teenager that couldn't keep his hands to himself. The change was startling.

So now he's on a new medication for his blood pressure to see how it goes. 3 weeks in, so far, no adverse aside affects, but we are keeping an eye on things, as now we know the problem was definitely medication induced.

I was so upset about it, thinking that my husband wasn't interested in me at all, and so worried that pushing the subject would just make it worse, and seem as if I was hassling him, that I was trying to deal with it on my own. At the same time, my husband was struggling with it silently, feeling very embarrassed and like he was failing, so he closed himself off too. I'm so very grateful to the IM community, for their suggestions, as not only did it help with dealing with the issues with the lack of drive, but reminded us as a couple, the importance of communication, especially on the hard to talk about topics. We were both equally upset about it, but avoided addressing it again, out of fear of hurting the other's feelings, when we should have been dealing with it together. So not only is our sex life much better again, but so is our communication.

And to those few ppl who suggested that I didn't respect my husband enough to accept that he has a right to say no to sex, I'm sorry you read my post that way. But i can assure you that I most certainly respect his right to say no. My post wasn't asking how to make him have sex with me, or anything of the kind. I acknowledged my feelings of being rejected were on me, not him, and I was asking advice on how to emotionally cope with those feelings. I didn't even want him to know how much it was hurting so I definitely was not wanting to guilt him into anything.

Thankyou again to everyone that responded ?