Ladies! I am about to loose my last marbles! I am not sure if Miss 2 just shows age appropriate tantrums or if there is something else going on. We have have 3 boys and one girl. The boys had tantrums BUT nothing like she does. I can not snap her out of it, not with hugs, distraction - not with bribing - with nothing. Each 'episode' can last for more than 30 minutes and even if she snappes out of it she starts not long after again!!!! They are out of the blue so I can't even determine the warning signs! It is starting to become really challenging. Some days are good and others she just cries and screams! Is that 'normal'????????? What else can I do? It's really frustrating - for everyone!
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Sorry I have no advice but wanted to say your not alone
I have a older son and 21mth daughter. Her tantrums are insane!!
My son is so easy going and never did anything like this. She's easy going too most of the time but she'll suddenly snap and have he most epic tantrum then when it's over go back to being normal.
Honestly it's doing my head in but everyone tells me it's just a girl thing that girls are more highly strung as toddlers
Always seek a medical opinion. Don't be the parent who ignores your feelings of this isn't right and discovers in three years that the child has a disorder that they could have been receiving help for.
Going to a paediatrician or child psychologist will not harm your child if it turns out that it's just a normal childhood phase, NOT going can harm your child and delay vital assistance to ease your child's way in life.
It definitely is normal. My son used to have tantrums like that at two and many other kids do as well. Sometimes all you can do is wait till it's over and act calmly to encourage her to mimic you're mood. Let me explain why they have these out of control tantrums. Their little minds are going pretty much crazy and they just can't control it. My son had to hit the frustration out his head by banging himself on anything and everything. If it tried to stop him he would throw up or his nose would bleed because of all the built up frustration his body couldn't handle. That stage only lasted a few weeks and now at 5 he's a normal healthy happy boy but if you think tantrums are bad at two thats nothing. Behavioural ones are worse then toddler tantrums. Kids will tantrum till their old and grey haha
I have two daughters and my oldest is great. Barely a whinge but my youngest who turns 5 in February is a nightmare. She will scream for hours. And I mean hours. She's always been this way. As she's gotten older she has settled more but once it hits 5.30pm she's a mess.it's so stressful. I've ended up taking her to a doctor and they just said she should see a psychologist, but she was only 3 then and I didn't feel comfortable with that. I watch her when we are at someone's place and she tries so hard to stop but it just gets the better of her.
I don't really have advice for you sorry. Everyday is different for me. Some days ignoring works well and other days I just have to keep trying and eventually I can distract her enough to stop. Last night I had to distract her with info about possums. It's ridiculous. Hopefully doesn't last forever. Good luck!
I only have 2 girls, no boys to compare them to. But with tantrums and bad behaviour, I have always found (after trying all sorts of things) that completely ignoring it, leaving the room, not even acknowledging it is our best strategy. Same when they get older and grow out of the tantrums, ignoring other bad behaviour seems to be most effective. Hard when they follow you though!