Hi mums,
When my friends are around or I'm at work I'm perfect at acting like nothing is wrong and I'm happy, bubbly and positive
When I get home I'm angry, snappy, impatient and negative and want to be alone
My husband of 12 years wishes I could be like that with him cause he's worried about our connection now as I never show much affection and he reckons to him I treat him like the provider of the house and that's it
I love him heaps and marriage is hard work and I don't want him feeling that and I would die for him to be at home with me but he's obviously the income of the household for all our bills and livelihood.
How do I change??? Why am I like this??
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I am exactly the same and sadly have no advice, I'm working on it myself!
We are planning to move towns in the next few months as we are both unhappy in our jobs and living situation at the moment and I'm hoping that that is the reason I feel like this and once we move and get a fresh start things will change.. I hope!
Have you seen a psychologist?
I personally made a choice not to live with anyone other than my child. I am one of those people who needs A LOT of time to myself. I need it to function. I know my limitations and make my life fit that.
I'm just not designed for being in someone else's pocket. It's not them that's the problem. It's me. It's not a bad thing, and I know that means I won't have long term cohabiting relationships but that is totally fine by me. Because I know what I need and am not going to make someone's life miserable or my life miserable to conform to how the world thinks I should live.