I'm curious what people's rules and expectations are for their teenagers. What time is bed? Do you allow during the week sleepovers? Do you allow them to have a beer? What sort of punishment do you invoke if rules are broken? If they have a part time job how much of their pay if any do you take for household expenses? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Please remember I'm a single mum doing it financially tough. Thank you.
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Bed time varies on a school night I like my son to be in bed by atleast 9:30., I don't allow week night sleep overs and on weekends I am
Not fazed on what time he goes to bed as long as it's not to late. I don't allow drinking alcohol plenty of time to allow that when he's 18.. My son doesn't have a job yet so he doesn't pay board maybe ask $20 out of his pay to go towards weekly expenses
Personally, being a single mother doesn't have any impact on parenting your children appropriately.
I have an almost fully fledged teen boy.
He gets ready for bed around 8 and because I know him, I send him to bed around 830-9 to chill out reading or watching something on YouTube. He's asleep by 930.
In terms of sleep overs, he had one when he was 6. I didn't do it again because of maturity. Should he have one in future, it'll be weekends, Friday nights and Saturday nights only. The conditions are that he's met his obligations throughout the week.
A: hour homework per day has been done.
B: he's done his house work.
C: he's kept up with his behaviour.
He goes to his fathers every other weekend and I don't know what sort of ship they run, but I like an organised crew. Things don't get done if people aren't going to manage themselves. I expect beds made every morning and dirty clothes in hampers. I expect showers and teeth cleaned without me supervising. These aren't babies, these are young men who need man training.
As for alcohol and teens. I disapprove and legally, no. I grew up in the US, so I am reserved until 21. Before consensual age, nothing goes into a child's body that shouldn't be there. That's my opinion there.
You know, I think you can budget for allowances with any money left over from the fortnight. I give $5-$10 per "extra" job. My son isn't expected to fold towels and sheets because I like them done a certain way. But if he does it, 10$. I expect he makes his bed and cleans up after himself. He doesn't get paid for that. If he offers to help put washing on by actually do washing and hanging it out, that's $10. The difference is he's doing it for a reward. If he did it because I expected him to do it as a routine, he doesn't require a reward.
Again, I am raising a man who is a contributor not an entitled male.