I have been with my partner for about 9 months when we fell pregnant, a month after being engaged. Our relationship was intense and full of fun, drinks, romance.
When I was pregnant I began to resent him.. he drank every single night and used to get drunk a lot.
He is awesome in every other way, he cooks and cleans, irons, loves kids.
He died down the drinking closer to when I was due, then bubs was born.
Now my son is 5 months old and he's returned to drinking every night and getting smashed on his days off work.
I feel we can't go do anything as a family because he starts drinking at midday. Even during the week.
Last straw was tonight, came home ignored me and baby, had a shower then opened a beer.
Am I being a bitch or unreasonable????
We have argued about this before!! He doesn't seem to get it!
Drinking too much
Drinking too much
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Not being unreasonable. He shouldn't be drinking that much!
However if this was who he was before you had kids I can understand his confusion.
Personally there is no way I'd live with anyone who behaved like this.
Definitely not unreasonable.
Sounds like an alcoholic to be honest.
You need to be firm with him. Instead of saying "no booze", maybe tell him there is to be no alcohol before Bub is in bed.
He's choosing alcohol over spending time with his family, that's a huge red flag.
Is all the drinking a deal breaker for you?
Maybe telling him that if he doesn't cut back on the drinks, you may need to seperate.
He sounds like an alcoholic.
Google "funtioning alcoholic"
Thats a shit way to live. Waiting for him. I did it a long time. Thought all the good weighed it up. I wasted those early years they were much harder on me than they should have been.
Some things are deal breakers.
Watch his actions not his words and dont waste too long waiting if hes not changing.