I have no one to talk to about this. I don't know what to think. My partner has a cuckold fetish. This means he likes watching me have sex with other men. I have always been very straight and boring but I did this for him. I hate it. I have to get very drunk. One day I noticed that he was on a website looking for men for me and had pictures of me doing sexual acts as enticement (no face shots). I was very angry and told him NOT to do that and that I do not give him permission. I made him delete them. Well, I have now found out that he has done it again. Over 200 pictures of me and some have been viewed 28000 times! These pictures include my face. He also sent my pictures via email to someone else. We have been together for over 5 years. I love him but I hate this! Hate it! What should I do?
My partner put my intimate photos online without my consent. What should I do?
My partner put my intimate photos online without my consent. What should I do?
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He obviously has very little respect for you and you have no respect for yourself if you stay with him. If it was me I would be kicking him to the kerb and then having him charged. Photos on the internet NEVER disappear.
Ummmm kick him out and go to the police and have him charged!!!!
This is not ok at all.
He has zero respect for you and he's laughing behind your back.
You asked him to delete the first time when your face wasn't shown so he knew it was wrong and then he's posted more with your face showing. Your his plaything hun not his partner.
You need to stand up for yourself because no guy that's decent would ever do this and you deserve and will find so much better
Also how is he getting 200 pics?? Did you agree to them being take. Or hs he got a hidden camera?
My hubby and I have been together 12 yrs and a wild sex life but he wouldn't have 200 pics because we are enjoying moment yeah sometimes camera comes out but not to that extent
Sorry you may love him, but he isn't showing he loves you. I'd be packing his bags and sending him on his way.
Wow thats the ultimate disrespect. Youre body is not his plaything. If you cant trust him you have no relationship. Especially sexually and intimately with your privacy.
You dont even enjoy your sex life in this relationship. And having sex with people you dont want to is not a healthy compromise to make. Nor should he be happy with doing that to you. Sounds like hes much more interested in his own enjoyment and has no respect at all for you.
Call the policethe man sounds like a predator
I have just seen that the total views are 78000! I feel sick. My boss, my co-workers, friend and family could have seen this. He took the pics while I was having sex with these men and was very drunk.
He is low life scum, I think there is legislation where you can have him charged. Step 1 kick him out, step 2 down to the police for a chat. If he treats someone he loves like that, hate to see how he treats his enemies. You have nothing to be ashamed of, this is not your fault, please remember that you are the victim in all of of this and don't you forget it. Counselling also wouldn't hurt, you have been violated in the most heinous way possible by someone that is supposed to love you.
Also, it doesn't sound much like an open, trusting, consensual cuckhold relationship, it feels more like a pimp out my wife and degrade her type. He only has to pick the wrong guy and it could be very dangerous for you.
thanks for the responses. Please please can you put this on facebook. I need more help.
Hi Anonymous - Kelly here, from The Imperfect Mum team. Your question will go on Facebook when it is next in line - think it looks like it will be on Tuesday at this stage. Hope that helps!
I do have a personal question though - as I'm curious.
With your partners fantasy - and your unwillingness to do something that you did anyway - did he then ask for more?
What I mean is - as humans - we seem to think we want something and would be content once we have it. But once we finally have that golden goose - it then seems to not be enough and we hunger for more. Wondered if this is the case here?
Big hugs. Sounds like a terrible situation to be in and I hope by posting on facebook you will find some clearer direction... x
Its me again. Ok, he came home from a work trip Friday. I had sent him an analogy that really hit home with him. HE made me watch as he deleted everything he had and he also booked in for counselling for himself to find out why he did this.
I could hardly look him in the eye I was so disgusted with him. He didn't do the fake crying or shit like that. He just said that the analogy I used really hit home for him as it was something that he loved and thought that most women would enjoy the chance for lots of sex without cheating. His ex used to love it. He now sees it differently.
Let's see how the counselling goes. We are not young (nearly 50) and this has been around a lot longer than we have been together. I will not be sleeping with anyone other than him ever again :)
And Kelly, it didn't really go further than what he first asked for and he explained the pics as a kind of "brag book" within the cuckold community. I told him I did not give a flying fuck about them and that he needs to see me first. It is like a compulsion for them.
I am a very strong willed person and my love for him clouded my judgement however my love for myself has won out and I will not betray myself again like this. I hope for HIS sake that counselling helps him. I will be fine either way. He has to live with himself.
p.s. I don't need it on FB now. You guys have been great and I enjoyed reading all the responses out to him :)
Would have loved to see his face when he read the responses, sometimes it takes complete strangers to tell you to really hit home what someone is saying. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you both.
There is only one choice for me in this and that is leave. No amount of counselling or professional help could help me repair the trust I once had in a person if they were to do something like this to me. The fact you have felt pressured to engage in acts that make you hate yourself and he derives pleasure from that is all kinds of unhealthy. Any man that loves you back would never expect you to engage in something you do not feel comfortable doing and he would respect your wishes. He does not. And he continues to do it anyway. Like your feelings do not matter. This is abuse. Leave, go to the police and have him charged. Best of luck.
I need to answer this anonymously... but get out do it now... i Had this and it's hard but it will only get worse this man has no respect for you at all...