Hi, just looking for advice please
2 days ago I left my partner of 10years. There has been ongoing issues with him being involved in drugs, binge drinking and lies. But most recently he was physically abusive.
My question is how do I tell my 3 beautiful children that I have left him? Hes never played a very active part in their up bringing but they absolutely adore him and I dont want to tarnish that with the truth, as they are blissfully unaware of whats been happening. I also dont want them to hate me for it. They are 8, 7 and 3.
Thank you
2 Replies
Firstly good for you for taking a stand....
Maybe tell your babies that sometimes in life we need to take a brake from each other like when they fight as children or as friends. We take a brake to settle down and see if we go back together. At the moment mummy and daddy need space and a brake but one thing you both agree on and are passionate about is the love you have for them.
Don't tell them specifics, keep it generic. "Mum and dad can't live together anymore. We both love you very much and will keep you as our priority." As they get older they will pick up on the issues, particularly if those issues continue.
Good luck!