For those that have teenagers, how the hell do you cope? I am a sahm mum with 4 and hubby works away. My second eldest who is 13 does my head in. She rarely does her jobs (take the rubbish out and feed the dog) without having to be asked up 3 times. She backchatts everything anyone says including her sisters. She is ALWAYS (every weekend all weekend from friday night to sunday) wanting to be with her friends. When she is home she is in her room with headphones in. Her room...omfg its disgusting. I told her this past week that ahe wasnt going anywhere this weekend her room is be cleaned......still waiting for it to be done properly. Is it too cruel to empty her room completely...leaving a matteress on the floor ( her and her bratty friends have broken the base by jumping on the bed) and leaving her clothes in there but taking everything including the door (yep i have taken that off to once before because she slamed it shut after i told her not to).
I am basically at the end of my rope with her not helping out or even doing her jobs and her backchatting and not keeping or even cleaning her room. Her phone will be confiscated again this afternoon but i dont feel thats enough of a punishment as ive done it 50 million times already.
Hhhheeelllpppp!!!!!
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I once was like your child, I was a disgusting pig and for my single mum who had three other kids and worked 6 days a week I was horrible, I once was asked to clean my room and I didn't, I went out instead and when I came home I had found mum had cleared out my room and my clothes and bought me two of the most ugly dresses to wear until I learnt how to respect what I had and respect myself, I tell you what although I hated her at the time I quickly learnt not to f**k with her and that I had to do as I was told and to this day over 15 years later I still remember very well not to disrespect myself or my home or my family ever! Any time I came close to pushing the limits mum would go get one of the dresses and hang it on my door handle and I'd pull my head in quick smart! (No teenager wants to wear a yellow and brown and orange velvet dress that looked and smelt like 1970's curtains lol) good luck with it all, it might help it might not but as long as your trying and sticking with what you say she will get the message, she will fight it but I guess all teens will but if you keep at it she will soon Realise your in charge and no matter what she does or says will change it
I'd be clearing out her room. I'd only leave what she needs for school (uniform, school bag).
I certainly wouldn't be allowing friends over for a long time. They clearly have no respect!
I'd be re examining chores around the house, make sure they are reasonable. I think kids should pull there weight house work wise, but growing up I remember watching a couple of my friends get in trouble for not completing chores. I asked why didn't they do them, the response 'I can never do them good enough, and am going to get in trouble anyway, so I might as well not waste my time and get in trouble for not doing it'
Thanks ladies ....i love the dress idea im sure i can find something equally ridiculous at vinnies. For the moment i have piled everything that was on the floor on her bed. As soon as she gets home she will be told the only answers i will accept is yes mum no mum nothing more and if i get a but in the answer then she will be punished (still trying to think of a suitable punishment) her phone will be confiscated until further notice and any questions asked about when her phone will be returned will delay the return of the phone. (She naggs like an old bloody woman). Next step if she cant clean her room ill remove everything including clothes and give her the most ugly dresses to wear. Im sick to death of telling her and telling her until i lose my shit.
I have boys but... one of mine drove me nuts and the best punishment was taking the modem with me whenever I left the house. Meant no WiFi and the phone data soon maxed out and was useless. The others in the house didn't have an issue cause they were over him too and didn't have on-line addictions (their ph data was always enough to back them up when I was out). The one who was dirty and smelly I actually kicked out (your girl is too young for that) and he has thanked me more than once for the wake up call - now he is a model tenant for someone else (go figure...) Firm but fair and consistent seems to work the best - when I go to the limit of my patience I would say - Do you want the witch to come out? and mostly they would back down. But generally boys don't seem to be as bloody minded as girls. Good luck :)
I'm not there yet...! That being said I have a moody almost 11 year old boy and almost 7 & 4 yo girls. They all push limits and I have bagged up their belongings before to make a point that if they want to keep it they need to respect it... as well as themselves and I. I will not think twice about removing everything from their bedrooms and given them the most horrific clothing to wear until they show respect if it ever comes to that. (In the case of my (7) daughter the clothing will be plain and boring because clothing she thinks is stunning I think is horrific lol)