Wow! I thought we were all supposed to be non-judgmental when replying to these questions. I posed the original question about the in-rsvping to the party.
Firstly the child is NOT artistic. He has adhd.
Secondly I bloody do support my friend and her depression. I've cooked her meals! I've visited her! I've taken her for coffee! I check up on her almost daily. So don't sit there telling me I'm a shit friend!
Thirdly, that was a MILD example of behaviour. When my child interacts with this child he gets bullied by this boy. He manipulates my child, and physically hurts him. Using ADHD as an excuse for his behavior is pathetic. Why do I say this because my son has another friend who ALSO HAS ADHD and is RESPECTFUL AND WELL MANNERED.
My kids are far from perfect but when they misbehave or ill mannered. I pull them up.
My child doesn't want to go to this kids party so I won't make him. And why do you ask? Because he hurts my son. Physically and emotionally.
So Thanks for telling me I'm pathetic and childish and that I'm a shit person. Good job.
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I read those responses to your post on facebook and I honestly am shocked. I think you and your son have every right not to associate with this child. The mother may be your friend but your son is your son and his well being is more important. Does NOT mean you're selfish or a bad person. I don't know what the fuck these other women are on about.
These days, ADHD and ASD etc seem to have become an excuse to have rotten kids. It's as if parents go "oh well he's been diagnosed I guess there's nothing I can do about it, he's 'special needs'". I'm sorry but unless your child is severely autistic (which this friends child is clearly not) then your child needs to learn if he's a little shit and treats people like crap NOBODY is going to come to your party. Life lesson learnt early.
I can understand why people are saying it's sad if nobody comes to the kids party. Yeah it's sad for nice lovely kids who have no friends because kids are mean. But if you're a bratty jerk kid and other kids are scared of you, sorry buddy, you don't have any friends because you treat them like shit.
To all the mums who attacked this woman on facebook, you're clearly he women who have little shit kids you don't want to discipline because you feel sorry for them. And sorry but it's gonna be a hell of a lot sadder when they're still jerks as adults because you let them get away with shit and they never have any friends.
Rant over
Well said!!!!
I agree with the above reply. And to all you bitchy women, acting like you are still in High School. GROW UP!!!!
This is why I'm no longer interacting with Imperfect Mum
I didn't see the question or comments, but I'm sure seeing bitchy women here
You can't compare 1 child with another, you know that! Yes, that even extends to kids with disabilities
So one kid manages his adhd ok, that means all kids must behave the same or their parents must be arseholes and the kids are doomed for life? Ableist crap
If you don't want to go, don't go, don't make a huge song and dance about and demonise other kids in the process
From the original post i get the impression she has a standard of behaviour and gets personally offended/disrespected if a child doesnt live up to it.
Sometimes the bar has to be moved. He has a lot going on poor boy, you need to understand that sometimes in some circumstances at certain times children just can't and holding them to a standard beyond their reach only creates failure. Not shitty kids just kids that need help.
Don't feel bad, you are protecting your child!
It doesn't matter if the child has adha, autism or nothing at all, no child should be made to put up with that behaviour!
Yes there are different "levels" of adha, autism (other conditions) however as I said, it doesn't make it ok that your child should just accept the physical and emotional abuse that he gets.
Each child is different, speak to your friend and ask if he does the same to everyone else or if your child is receiving more abuse and why?
Maybe there are triggers you are unaware of.
(Sorry I didn't see the original post so I'm not sure if you know this already).
Also YOU ARE NOT A SHIT MUM OR HORRIBLE PERSON. There is only so much abuse or negative pressure a person can take.
I don't blame you for wanting to distance yourself from them. I had a friend who's child was physically abusive towards our son and I also saw this kid try to choke his dad and hit his mum. We no longer see them anymore.