First time poster. I've seen a lot of hated on this site, this is not what I'm after.
I was with my ex for 5.5 years and he was financially, mentally, verbally and for a while physically abusive. It took a long time for me to leave, but I left. The only thing is, we have 2 beautiful children together. He is a great dad, but a terrible human being.
I'm currently in a new relationship and I'm so happy. I've never been so in love.
For me to leave my ex, I had to leave my kids behind, I knew there was no other way, now he has them 5/7 days a week and I'm lumped with a measly 2 while being a full time student at uni and a part time worker.
I feel lost.
I feel like the only way I'll see my kids more is if I go back to him.
Help a sister out x
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I think the only options are mediation and if that doesn't work going to court.
Yep go to mediation/court. I assume you never told the police about his abuse so you can probably never be able to prove he is a bad person. (By the way if he was abusive to you then he is a bad father. Bad person = bad father 100% it's a terrible thing for children to see).
I think as long as you have as stable home and can provide for your children, I don't see why you wouldn't get 50/50
Set up mediation, if mediation doesn't work out your next step is court and get court orders.
You don't have to go back to him, you just have to take the right steps in order to get more time with the children. Its a long slow process but if hes outright refusing more time than its your only option.
I am also a fellow mum who had to leave her children with the father in order to leave the relationship. It took 11 months for my ex to get over me leaving him and allowed me to to see my kids (2, 4 & 6 back then) it's hard but you need to seek legal advise and get a good support network around you.