Mediation; ex and I have been seperated now 7yrs - doesn't feel like it. We have next to no contact from father. Father now wants 9yr old child (new gf is running the show). Therefore mediation has begun. He's seen child 6 times this year thanks to her pushing and making arrangements but hardly calls. There is no relationship between child and father therefore one needs to be build but it will be a slow progress due to anexity & separation issues. I have a few points/ arrangement requests I'll be making. Also been given advise to let child have a seperate phone that will be turned on at a set day/ time for father to call - doesn't call anyway. I want to request that the parenting plan is reviewed every 6mths - does that happen? Does anyone else have advise or perhaps things in their parenting arrangement that may be useful for me. Thank you!
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Personally I'd ask that the new GF isn't involved in the actual mediation process.
A friend of mine returns to mediation every few months or so to have things updated as things change (very tricky situation). You can keep going back to mediation as often as needed.
I don't really have any advice but I'd just like to say maybe the new gf isn't doing this to be difficult? If I met and fell in love with a man with a child he never saw and he expressed to me that he would like to but was too worried it had been too long etc (not saying this is what's happening here but possible) I might try to get things rolling too. She might be doing this for the right reasons
Thank you for your response. Unfortunately no this isn't the case. As she already has kids he spends time with hers but when he's with our child he doesn't and he's coached to. He chose to stay home and look after her child instead of visiting his own. He broke his promise and our child knows this and gets very upset over it. So now our child has given up and doesn't wanna go. Even before her he had alittle contact been like that for 7yrs.
Theres never a right reason. If its not him doing it its not right. Definitely not in best interest of kids.