I hate my reflection. My face is fat, my curly hair has gone straight and limp and I can't find clothes that fit. My sex drive is gone and my husband just accepts that. I don't really want to have sex but I feel my confidence would be helped by being complimented or desired every once in a while. I'm 30 weeks pregnant. My husband is a really sweet guy but I don't want him to want me cos I told him to I want him to want me cos he can't resist me. I just need to wait it out a few months until my body is mine again I just don't know how to last that long while hating how I look..
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Step away from the mirror. Start focusing and thinking about what your body CAN DO. So everytime you thin, about how your body looks, think of 3 things your body can do.
Top of the list for me
Your body is growing a human being! That's incredible
Start focusing on how incredible that is. I'm sure your body does some other amazing things too. Start thinking about what skills you have. Value yourself for things other than your appearance.
Your body is amazing. It is growing a little person in there! Start doing little things for yourself that make you feel good. For me it's taking my dogs for a walk (at 37 weeks it's more of a waddle though ?); I have company I don't have to talk to, I'm exercising and I'm out in the fresh air.
You can't really tell your husband that you have no sex drive but expect him to initiate sex. He probably can't resist you but you've put him in a lose/lose position. Try just being intimate without having sex. Kiss, hug, hold hands, snuggle on the couch, go on a date, spend quality time together, talk. Chances are he's feeling like he's been put on the back burner but he's trying to be considerate of your feelings
If you haven't check out the curly girl method for your hair. My hair is so much better since trying it! There's a Facebook group too if you want to have a look and all the members are so friendly and welcoming.
As for the pregnant body, your almost there. Growing a human is an amazing thing, but I hate to tell you with a7 year old and 4and a half year old I don't have mine back. My youngest still thinks my boobs are his!