Im 33. Have 3 kids to my ex and in a 2.5yr relationship with the love of my life. I so desperately want one more. Initially he said yes but has since been adamant that he is too old (36) yet we still do the deed unprotected his response....if it happens it happens....but its not. Im confused and heartbroken. I found out earlier this year i have PCOS with a low number of eggs left and a dysfunctional uterus and have been slowly putting on the weight.
My period have now worsened to the point that the pain and pressure in my pelvis at that time feels like stage 2 of labour and that if i fart out will pop everything from my bowels to my uterus. The bleeding can be horrific and last for 2 to 3 days to the point where i just stand in the shower for relief and watch the floor turn red. Clots are thick and some are almost an inch long. I have a drs appointment next week and want ideas on what i need push for. Ive had thyroid, sugar and hormone checks in the last 6 mths with a tras vag ultrasound but apart from the PCOS and hormone imbalance because of it; nothing else was wrong.
I am seriously wondering if this is perimenopause. How is it tested or diagnosed? Has anyone else had similiar? As much as i ache for another child it feels like my body is telling me its done. How do you just let that go? Did a hysterectomy help or worsen your symptoms or was it not gyno related?
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Firstly I'll start with the peri menopause. There is no 'test' for this. It's kind of like trying to test for when a child is going to go through puberty. its definitely worth pushing for more answers though although a dysfunctional uterus would explain the symptoms. There are treatments.
As to the baby part. You can move past another baby. Yes it's a grieving process. But I have to agree your body is telling you it's done. I had to stop at one because I carry a condition that I didn't want to pass on and has affected my first child very badly! Genetics are not on my side! So I was sad, I grieved, but it hasn't consumed me. I developed new life goals and interests and am very happy with my life.
Get some running shoes and hit the pavement. The best thing you can do for PCOS is exercise! If you can't run, then try swimming or something. At least 30mins of pretty high intensity a few times a week. I was diagnosed with PCOS in my teens and told that I'd struggle to have babies... until I started running... Makes me extremely fertile. Weight gain with PCOS inhibits your ability to fall pregnant. And despite everyone saying how hard it is when you have PCOS to lose weight... it may take a little longer, but it's no more difficult. All comes down to what goes in your mouth and how much you move. TRUST ME. Exercise is your friend.