Hey ladies,
With Christmas fast approaching and my twins getting older, I'm starting to question what do I do about presents. Every year for birthdays and christmas, they've always gotten the same gifts (for example a My Little Pony but they each get a different character. Or a different Monster High doll each). They're almost 9 and I'm starting to question if I should start getting different presents for them, because even though they're twins, they're an individual person. But at the same time, they LIKE the same things! They both like Pokemon and small, furry animals and books and art and have the same friendship group. They're inseperable 24/7 by choice. I know if I get one daughter some Pokemon cards and the other an E=MC2 doll, there will be tears because one feels like she missed out.
At what age or point did same sex twin parents stop buying the same toys? Did you ever stop? Were there tears when you did?
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Not twins, but thought this might help. I'm one of three girls who were so close in size and age that people often asked if we were triplets lol
Anyway. Mum always bought us a variety. So we got a present or two that was near identical (eg doll but different colour etc), presents to share (usually a board game), individual presents that would have been on our request list. Our stocking stuffers wee identical.
If we argued because someone got something that we didn't that was considered a 'life lesson'. As your girls age they are going to be exposed to different experiences and a minor skirmish here or there is not going to damage them, in fact it will teach them a lesson that they don't have to have everything the other has, and that's ok (because as they hit the work force, get into relationships etc, they aren't going to have identical salaries, spending money etc, so they need to practice that).
Don't rob them of important life lessons just because they are twins.
I have twin children and twin grandchildren.
My children are boys. I bought identical gifts for them until they were teenagers. But I did get some different items as well. Now they're adults I get them entirely different gifts.
One of my twin boys has twin daughters.
I buy them exactly the same thing with the exception of colour with one purple and one pink. They're only one though so I'm assuming that will continue until they're older.
I think since your twins have similar interests you can't go wrong buying the same gift for each. If their interests change then obviously the gifts should reflect that.
Enjoy ?
Thanks for thw advice guys... I'll keep sticking to the same things, since thats what their interests are, but as they get a little older over the next couple of years I'll start mixing it up
I have twin boys nearly 7 - for the last few years - since they could use a pair of scissors....i have a sheet done up with 8 squares on it "Alex's Santa Wish List"...they then get the Toy Catalogues to look through and cut out 8 things they want to ask Santa for....then we get to see what it is they really want (most times they pick the same things but not always)...then we take it to Santa - and tell them that the boys have chosen these 8 things - but they understand they can only get 2 of them....then we know what they want and if we want to purchase some of the others or get others to buy them - then at least they are getting 8 things they want and they have picked...