So as I sit here writing this feeling upset and asking where things have gone wrong, I just have no answer for myself.
So ladies please tell me there still people out there who look for friends later in life and manage to find people who actually take the time for you, plan stuff with you an don't cancel.
I have always been a happy go lucky type of person who has had a great circle of people. But as time as gone on I have found people have drifted away in other circles and I've been left behind.
I am a great friend, I have so much time for my friends and would do anything for them. I love to see people succeed.
I miss not having people contact me asking me if I'm ok and how are you? I am the one to contact. I also get the we should catch up soon but these things never eventuate unless I make the contact and then usually ends with sorry can't make it today.
I'm a family person and have 2 kids and a hubby, but also love doing stuff outside of the family. I like my girly time and being around my friends. I hate gossiping and bitching and found as life goes on there is so much of it. I am an open and honest loving and caring person who has so much to offer.
I don't really know what I'm asking but guess I'm ready to give up and just crawl into a hole. I feel like noone would notice.
Friendships Later in Life
Friendships Later in Life
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I hear you! I'm pretty much in the same position friendship wise. It's very lonely at times.
I do have one friend who is reliable, hooray!
In my case my friends do contact me to organise a catch up, I contact back with some suggestion of times and then they don't get back to me. Wait 3 months and start the entire process again! I've come to the conclusion they don't really want to catch up.
Most of my best friends have moved away for work so I only see them once a year when they come home. In the meantime, there's family life and plenty of social activities to get involved with through people we know through work, volunteering, sports, etc.
I think as we get older, our friendship needs & expectations change...some people become parents & throw themselves into that aspect of their lives, others become so career focused & get SO absorbed in succeeding - it becomes increasingly difficult to maintain all friendships :(
utilise social media to keep in contact with those closest to you...maybe try find new friends with same/similar interests, never know what may happen