Hi ladies,
We've been thinking about buying a house and living with my husbands parents, in a dual living type situation. Seperate living areas, seperate kitchens. I guess I'm just wondering if this has worked for other people, especially with kids? Pros/Cons?
Living with the in-laws
Living with the in-laws
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DO NOT DO IT
I haven't lived with them but next to them. It was terrible. We had zero privacy (which I didn't think would be an issue before) and any time I stepped foot in the backyard my mum wanted me to "pass the baby over the fence". We ended up basically living inside as we were bombarded whenever we were in sight. I would never ever ever do it again.
I lived in the top level of a home while my parents lived in the bottom level. My advice is I would not do it! Especially as it's in laws. I'd only share for a few months maximum.
My parents and I get on great and my parents are very non judgemental, let me live my life type people. They are unusually easy going people.
If you said you were moving in with my parents I'd say go for it.
I've seen these arrangements tear families apart. You will have very little privacy. Will have them dropping in. They will have an opinion on everything. They will hear everytime you have a disagreement, the kids have a tantrum, everytime you have friends over etc.
just don't do it.
I did this for a bit and absolutely hated it, my mother in law constantly criticised my parenting and tried taking over. She would let the kids have stuff after I had said no and their behaviour turned horrible because they knew they'd get away with anything with nanny there.
I wouldn't recommend it if your in laws are the type to criticise you or give unwanted advice as it will get much worse living together.
Also my partner and I got no privacy which was very frustrating.
I would never do it again unless I literally had no other option.
I could easily live with my partners parents (and over the years we have done so twice for 6 months at a time) but they are the kind of people that don't need to be all up in your shit, happy to kick back and do their own thing and let us do ours. If anything the crap they collect would drive me insane as I'm minimising as much as comfort and convenience allows, but in a dual living environment it would be bearable. My MiL was an immense help when I had my first child (one of the 6 month periods we were living there), and they're both funny, generous, kind and honestly all round great people. If you say the same about yours, then go for it.