So I have an 8 month old who's always had sleeping issues, where even the sleep institute had gone through all the options and said the only way my son would go to sleep is through cio, which I was fine with at the time.
About two months ago I discovered the Montessori Method and became extremely interested in the nursery portion of the study, particularly the floor bed.
Since introducing my son to the floor bed his sleep has improved greatly, he doesn't cry it out anymore, and he's so much happier in the mornings and after naps and he doesn't wake up at stupid o'clock anymore.
My problem now is that I live with my partner and two friends and one friend is very vocal about his disapproval of the method, giving me shit for it every day and I think he's turning my partner against it as well. I came home from work last week and the cot was set up in our sons room even though I'd already told him about the floor bed and he said he thought it was an awesome idea.
I don't know how to cope because it's making me feel like I'm being a bad mum but I'm trying to do what works for my son and the floor bed is working amazingly. I don't want to put him back in the cot but I'm sick of feeling like I'm neglecting him by having him on the floor bed.
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Jesus its your baby do what works for you. Your friends opinion counts for nothing. Where and how you all sleep really is not their business.
How are you neglecting him putting him in a comfortable bed where he sleeps? You need to get tough tell your friend to get over it theyre being a dick.
Tell your friend that when they have there baby they can do what they like! Also if your partner insists he can do nights from now on Everynight. It will make him shut up real quick.
I wouldn't be house sharing very long, your partner sounds easily influenced by this friend.
Tell your friend to back off and stop giving you shit. You need to stand up for yourself. And you need to have a good talk with your partner and tell him to stick it too if he doesn't like it. It's the best thing for your baby and you need to fight for that . CIO is not a good thing for babies at all! What you're doing sounds great
My 4.5 year old sleeps on a mattress on my floor and loves it. I co slept with him until he was moving around. Then he moved into a cot without problems. When my now ex husband and I separated when he was 18 months old both him and his older brother found it a little hard with going between two houses and missing the other parent for a short time. My youngest is a mummies boy and obviously also struggled as he is younger too but both kids started back in my bed as a comfort/adjustment thing. My oldest is now 8 and he is in his own room and my youngest is 4.5 and sleeps on what I call the little bed as I have a partner and I don't like him in bed with us both. I made the decision that he is not allowed in my bed now unless there is a serious reason even if my partner isn't home but I like having him in my room still. I hate him feeling upset and like he isn't allowed the comfort of being near me, 4 is still so young and It isn't like he will do it forever, so I embrace it while I still can. I do get a little annoyed with stepping over the mattress as my room isn't huge and it partially blocks my ensuite door and it means no adult time when my partner is there... But really that is not the most important thing in the world. My first job is being a mummy and he is young and this is what he needs from me. It is no one else's right to tell you how to parent and they need to back off and let you do what is right. As long as your baby is safe and has no risk at all from SIDS, which from memory is up to one or two years old. That would be my only concern.
You are such a wonderful mother to have looked into a gentle option for your baby. A mother always knows what is best for their child. I feel so sad you aren't been supported. Please be strong!