Have you ever thought you made the biggest mistake?
I walked out on a relationship 3 months ago and it is literally the only thing I think about.
I still love him. I guess I was just tired.. a lot was going on and I was exhausted so I ran away.. and now I can't help but think I screwed up royally!
Biggest mistake.
Biggest mistake.
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Is it really a mistake or have you just put your rose coloured glasses on now?
I think even when you leave the crappiest relationships people go through a period of wondering if they made a mistake. A couple of reasons for that is our mind starts to down play how bad it really was. Our mind starts to remember the good times, even if the good times were far out weighed by the bad. We start to forget how hard we fought for the relationship when they wouldn't! That's one of the reasons abused women go back time and time again.
No. If he was amazing and the relationship and time was right for you you wouldnt have walked away. There was a reason. Youre remembering the good but it didnt work out, so there was bad too. Even if it was within you, thats the most important part of being happy.
You might regret it or you might be missing him and the companionship that you had while you were together. You ended things for a reason, and you are still grieving the loss of the life you had. Keep your head up and if things are meant to be then one day you might well get back on together again.
Why where you tired? What made you think your only option was to walk away? Is he a good man? Did your oartner know how you truly felt or was leaving his first time hearing you were not happy? Could you talk to him, maybe you could reconcile. Maybe you could go with dating easing your way back into the relationship good luck.
Sometimes life gets crazy and hectic I felt this a few years ago i got overwhelmed with being a wife sahm and pnd was a crazy time throw in a husband that worked fifo and I wanted to walk away from it all.... For my kids I chose to stay and it was a very long road we got counseling both individually and couple that was 3 years ago and in just aa couple of weeks will be celebrating our anniversary 11 years and are only months away from welcoming our 3rd child. I also in that time took more time for myself to relax and unwind girls weekends away an afternoon here and there and started seeing a pt yo help with weight loss.
You need to think about all my above questions and if your ex would consider a reconciliation you need to sit down and talk. If you think its a mistake tgen maybe it is trust your gut. Go and talk to him make some changes and see if you be happy together..
My husband did this when we first got together. About 5/6 months into the relationship he ended it abruptly. I was devastated and wanted nothing to do with him. I refused point blank to contact him, and deleted his numbers.
Anyway he was the first the person to wish me a happy birthday, we started talking sporadically after that. Turns out he was shit scared about commitment and couldn't handle it at the time. We ended up getting back together, and have been married 11 years, together for nearly 13 and have 3 children.
Anything is possible, but you need to contact him. He will be hurt and if anything like me, will refuse to contact you over his pride.
He may or may not want to get back together, but unless you make contact you will never know. I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship, but there are obviously reasons as to why you walked out. Unless you work on those your relationship will not work. It has to be a two-way street for it to work, and he may not want that or be ready for it.
Good luck, and I hope you find what you're looking for