Hi all, my eldest is turning 8 soon and is having his first birthday party in many years. A month ago when we planned the party he invited his 'best friend of the time' who also happened to have a younger sister who was my daughters best friend. I've told my other two kids they could invite a friend to the party to play with. So now these two kids who were informally invited by my kids are now being uninvited by them as they don't play with them and seems to be a bit of nastiness between them (as there can be with kids). I don't get along well with the mum as she is very full on and judgemental about my kids but won't have a bad word said against hers. So question is do I encourage my kids to invite these friends that aren't actually 'friends' with or I do let them invite who they want and I'll just have to deal with the mum. I'm not sure what to do- or what to say to the mum!!! Please help me!!! Thanks
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I'm sure if the kids don't play together they will be perfectly happy to be uninvited! I'd be very surprised if they would show up anyway
For young kids, i dont do uninviting. They already chose to invite them and in my opinion once theyve received an invite its done. its only been a few weeks nothing drastics happened that its worth the drama. And i dont want my kids to be the ones saying be nice or you cant come to my party.
I think uninviting is a horrible idea and somewhat bullying. I think this is a good life lesson to both you and your children. How would this affect an 8 year old! I know my 8 year old would be devastated to be uninvited to a party. You don't need to talk to the mum at the party and the children will probably go off playing with different children anyway. Maybe next time send invites out closer to the event date and remind your children to think carefully who they invite before hand.
They are little kids. If they have been invited, just leave it and they may or may not turn up. . But it would be pretty mean to uninvite them. Your kid isn't going to care in 10 years that a kid he sorta wasn't friends with anymore, at the time, came to his party. Besides, who knows, they may be besties again by the birthday day!