Hi IM's
I'm sitting here wanting to break down and cry.
There is an offer on the house with my ex husband. I've got my family as guarantors and he's refusing to sign saying he needs money for court fees. I'm applying to change the DV order currently and he told my mum just before he needs money for family court.
We're not going to get anymore money for that property. His response we might. We're pretty much getting what we paid and it's in worse condition than when we bought it. He's lived there since I left.
I want to cry. I pay part of the mortgage plus part of the rates. I'm off at the moment due to medical issues with my daughter I'm currently only on Centrelink. I can't afford to pay for the house. I've got no money behind me for legal fees.
He wants the house cuz he thinks he can get me to do what he wants.
I'm So stressed. This is an awesome offer.
I heard I can apply for an urgent court hearing but that can take time. And money I don't have as legal aid don't cover property.
He's threatening I'll loose my job because he's accusing me of forging his signature on loan papers. I never did and I never ever would do anything like that. I'm not worried as I know that I didn't do anything wrong but I'm so so tired of him accusing me of shit and his constant need to try to bring me down when I've done nothing wrong. I've actually got all loan paperwork and on all is his signature.
I'm so tired. I'm so tired of his constant drama and crap and him being so difficult.
I'm so lost so stressed. I feel like this will never end. I feel so so down about everything. When will it stop? When will he stop?
3 Replies
Take a breath. If it falls through it wont be the end of the world. Take him to court. Do what you have to do to get it sorted. You will be rid of him eventually.
I know it's hard but you should be able to self represent in court.
I am dealing with this right now. My ex put a bloody Caveat over the house so I can't sell it and have to pay the mortgage and rates. I can't afford legal representation and legal aid say we have too much money so won't represent me, he says he's going bankrupt. So i represent myself. It's nerve racking but the only other option is to allow him to walk all over me and continue to do so for 15yrs until my youngest is 18! Get an appt with legal aid, speak with them first on the phone and then get an appt and take in all the forms and get them to help you out. Or go to see a lawyer from a firm and get them to assist you and pay hourly without representing you (that's what I do). You can do it. It's a matter of filling in forms, speaking calmly, respectfully and clearly to the judge.
Don't let him control you forever. Find a song that makes you stronger (Katy Perry: Roar is mine!) and listen to it in the morning to get that fire in your belly to get you through the day. You've got this x