Hi everyone
I wrote in a couple of weeks ago about being disapponted with my husband for not helping me out around the place whilst I work and he stays home. I left him.
The icing on the cake for me was when police were called to my place after yet another dispute about housework which escalated to him pushing me on the ground before I tried to leave and him slamming the door on my hand before dragging me back inside. This was witnessed not by one Neighbour, but by two. They came up the me the following day to apologize for calling the police - I welcomed it. It was a real wake up call for me where this relationship was heading. I got up from work and then packed my bags and left. I told him I'm going to away without him. This was yesterday.
I stopped by home this morning to grab some things, and he's gone. He left me a note saying 'I've pushed him away so much that I'll never see him again' hahahahah I left you yesterday mate! His this gone but of course the trash left for me to clean. Typical him!
But once I clear out the trash, ill be 100kg lighter. Thank F*** ... god!
**addit. I have spoken to a counselor, changed the alarm codes and started to clear the crap he's left.
I'm still faced with being called manipulative, a narcissist, emotionally and financially abusive.
I feel like once again I have failed as this is another relationship I have failed at. I'm ashamed to tell my family.
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Good luck but just be prepared, he'll be a rollercoaster for a while yet. Next there'll be tears, begging, a total turnaround, mixed in with anger at youtoo when you dont make it easy. You should get yourself into counseling noe to help you navigate through leaving him. Its sad but common that they wear you down until it seems easier to go back.
Please take this ladies advice.
Congrats on taking this step and thank you for the update.
As stated above he will most likely do a complete turn around.
Good luck ❤️
Good for you, yes it sounds like he was emotionally abusing you and you standing up for yourself led to the escalation to physical abuse.
As the first person said, leaving is very rarely a straight line. So make sure you get yourself some support and be prepared.
Well done
Be careful. He will be back begging and crying soon and when you turn him away he will get angry. He's clearly unstable the way he treated you when the cops came. Get the locks changed TODAY. Or even better if you are in a rental move house. Contact the realestate and get out please. Women are killed almost every day by ex partners they never thought would do such a thing. This is close to my heart and I hope you take my advice
I am proud of you. Leaving my ex-husband who was also abusive was the hardest thing I have ever done.
Thank you for your kind words of support. I changed the alarm code yesterday, I've spoken to a counselor.
I am now faced with being called manipulative, a narcissist, emotionally and financially abusive oh and the big fat debt he's left me with. But I am strong woman who will survive for my daughter.
Great! Keep going stay strong , make it work for you without needing him and it will get easier and soon become your normal and then youll never ever look back.
Yep ALL normal behaviour from an abuser! Anything he says from now on will swing widely from abusive to begging!