My ex and I separated 7 years ago, we have 2 kids together, my daughter is 20 and my son is 16. There Dad has always lived interstate from us and the kids normally visit him on the school holidays and he usually rings them once a week so not an overly close relationship. Our son is a pretty laid back teenager and doesn't really say a lot, I think that's typical for the age so when his dad has rung in the past they only have a short conversation, his dad also visited over the weekend, the kids would spend the day with him and then he would drop them home in the afternoon and then he wanted to pick them up for dinner, my son refused to go out for dinner on the two nights, it was during his exam block and he was exhausted. Anyway my ex/their dad has seen this as our son not being interested in him and he has decided to cut contact with him. He has rung tonight and only spoke to our daughter and then at Christmas he is only flying our daughter to him. I'm worried sick what long term effect this will have on our son?, especially at this age and do I approach my son about this or just let it ride? I'm killing him with to much love at the moment and trying to cover for his dad. Thanks girls.
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Do you have good communication with their dad could you explain the situation to him. Or even write him a letter. I have seen first hand what playing favourites does to siblings my husbands bio dad used to do it all the time and for years it caused friction between them until they grew old enough to work it out and cut contact with him all together.