I need advice - after 2 years I can't get this out of my head.
My ex partner abused my mentally retarded child and has gotten away with it.
We had only just split when my child innocently told me 'he was glad he was gone so he couldn't do that stuff to him anymore'. I didn't question him, I went straight to the police.
It was a sad and traumatic process for our little family. The CP officers formally interviewed both my children and told me my child had been indecently assaulted on at least 12 occasions that they could clearly identify in their interviews. Nothing prepared me for that. My other child wasn't touched. They went to great lengths to explain that it would be a very difficult process for my child, that he had been sexually tortured as a form of dicipline and that defence psychologists would be very hard on him mentally. They told me they would soon interview my ex partner and I shouldn't expect to hear anything for a long time.
About a month later I had a rather formal letter from my ex partners father containing thinly veiled threats of civil defamation, that he had attended the police interview with my ex and mocked me, saying 'the police thought I was a joke' and they had legal representation at the ready if I didn't back down. They are a wealthy family. I have been deeply upset about this ever since.
I haven't heard anything more from the police in 18mths. My ex partner was a recently retired police officer with diagnosed mental issues, the reason we split up. I never even questioned my child, let alone put ideas in his head, the police stated to me that they knew from their interviews he hadn't been schooled. I went to the police with a suspicion of one assault, they came up with at least another eleven. Yet no action has been taken.
My child is ok. He doesn't talk about it, just says he didn't like my ex and goes very quiet. I'm not ok though, I feel like the police were looking after one of their own and he should have been charged. His new part time job means he has a blue card. How the hell do I move on and get all these whirling horrible thoughts out of my head?
Ex sexually abused my child and got away with it
Ex sexually abused my child and got away with it
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I'm so sorry this happened to you and your boy. You need to go get therapy for you. Yoiu have been through a horrible, horrible situation so speaking to a psychologist is a must. They can help you process this. They can teach you techniques.
I'm sorry to hear this hun!
Honestly i feel ur pain :( I myself was raped by two men in the same incident. the same night I called police I was so traumatised I couldn't give a proper statement until 3 months later, I was told that one of the men got briefly questioned and he denied it. I then asked for it to be properly investigated and was given an appointment with a detective who sat me down in the questioning room and bluntly told "it's your word against theirs, your causing a huge cuffufal* over nothing! And nothing will come out of this, you just need to move on"
I will never forget that conversation and it was 6 years ago now!
Unfortunately proving someone guilty of sexual assault is to difficult for the police and they don't like to much work for them self! It's not like we have a lot to deal with on our own!!!!!! ??
Take care of yourself, talk to someone!
I've never heard a mother of a special needs child refer to their child as "mentally retarded " ? ...........