Why is that we only remember or hold a grudge on certain situations or people. How do you get over people that did you wrong, who continue to hate you and think you're the worst person or play that they are the victim in the past and present. Why can't I free my head from it all? I cannot forgive some people but then there are people who have done stuff, that I don't even think about at all. It's so weird?
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I hold onto the ones where I was too forgiving, or gave too many chances to, usually it's when I ignored my inner voice that told me not to trust them. They are the ones that hurt the most, because I stupidly didn't hear myself or ignored the red flags.
Forgiving isn't forgetting. Actually it is unhealthy to forget, because then we can't set boundaries up to protect ourselves from the same thing happening. Forgiving gives you permission to stop holding onto the hurt.
Best answer! Xx