Ladies.... my son is 7 in year 2.... and i swear i am out of ideas and how to handle him and his attitude. He blatantly ignores me, he yells at me, swears at me. The yelling he learns from me ill admit. Im not a physical discipliner... never have been. Im one of those yelling mums. Please please please give me some advice. He has two younger sisters and gets many things he wants. He isnt spoilt but does not go without. I bend over backwards to make sure he and his sisters have everything they need and some of what they want. I swear the mums at the school think im a horrible mum who yells at her kid constantly... and im beginning to feel like it is all i do. I only want him safe and to make sensible choices and when im not around he is well behaved. School has no problem with him and neither does family. Just me and my husband who is also his dad. Im so out of answers and need help from others feeling the same
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Stop yelling. You can discipline without hitting and yelling. Overtime the kids get so used to yelling that they don't even hear it anymore. Save your voice.
Start praising him, when he does Anything good. I mean anything. If he watches TV quietly for 10 minutes praise it.
Kids LOVE to be praised and as an adult I will work triple has hard for a boss who praises me than one who tells me off or ignores me!
Play with him. Kids need time and attention. Things they ask for but its be really not what they need.
Let the little stuff go.
Monkey see, monkey do. You can't model one behaviour to your little mini-me and expect another. For you and your behaviour I recommend PPP. I did it through the general hospital in our nearest city. I did it to learn how to help control a son with ODD, I see its benefits in general and think everyone should do it.
I love tripleP too, and it's actually backed by evidence