Hi ladies, after 10 years of abuse from my husband I left him few months back. Since leaving I'm having issues with him.
Police are involved and sort out a AVO. After telling the police about everything they would like to charge him for the rape he did to me over the past 10 years. I agree with police officer should do it but i have told few close friends and they say don't do it and they are worry about mental health (i have major depression and chronic PTSD). Now im thinking to myself am i doing the right thing.
We don't have children together.
What would you do?
I'm thinking different because i received phone call from his mother saying he tried to kill himself.. I don't know what to think.
I have new partner and we are moving fast. I feel like im getting "cold feet". I never thought i would find a new partner this quick. I get treat so well i wonder to myself if i deserve it. We are already living together. Im worry about wreck what i have with my partner. He everything what i want. Im so used to being abuse i dont know how to act etc.
Any tips?
I have low self-esteem etc
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Honestly, I'd take what your friends think out if it, I'd take what his mother says out if it (as you don't get a get out of jail free card).
You need to do what is right for you. So if I was you I'd be speaking to my own mental health care professional so you can decide what you want to do.
BUT he deserves to be prosecuted! He deserves to have charges laid, he did this to Himself. Don't let people make you feel guilty for pressing charges. He 100% deseves to be locked up for a very long time.
They're telling you not to make sure the man who raped you is prosecuted? Are these mutual friends because good god, I would never discourage my friend from pressing charges if he or she was raped! Geeze, I'd probably drive the to the police station!!!
You decide for you if you want to prosecute. Yes he 100% deserves to face the consequences of his actions! Whether it is something you are ready to do right now is another question that only you can decide.
Also, f@&k his mum and her guilt tripping. If he tried to kill himself, that's on him, not you! He's the only person that can control his actions so tell his mum to stop involving you in his train wreck of a life- there is a reason you're not with him anymore!
If you feel you can do it then get him charged for rape.
I personally couldn't cope with the thought so i filled out a SARO report instead.