Hi I am writing this as I am stressing out I have a 3.5 year old and she doesn't know her abc she can sing the song that's about it she can count to 10 when she wants to I am also trying to get her to write her name or at least recognise the letters in her name but she has no interest in it I'm going insane trying to get her to do it it's also hard as she had 2 younger siblings I feel like I'm failing as a mum
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You are asking too much of her! Kids her age pick bits up here and there and when she is closer to age 5 she will learn how to do it really easily.
As long as she can recognise her name written down somewhere (doesn't need fi be able to write it or spell it) when she starts school at 5 she will be totally fine.
At this age kids should be playing.
She is 3...you are expecting too much of her. Just relax and let her be a kid, she'll learn how to write her name eventually.
Ease up. Read to her, buy a set of magnetic letters and let her play making words, same with the letter mats. If it's not fun she won't do it and she'll end up switching off completely by the time she's in school and needs to be learning these things.
Is this a joke?
???? IKR??!!
Its great that you are encouraging her but the average age for her to be able to write her name and recognize the letters of the alphabet is closer to school age. She is probably still a bit to young to fully comprehend what you are asking of her. Yes some 3 years old may be competent is this area but the majority won't be. Both of my children learnt to write their names closer to 4.5 years old. My 5.5 year old has only recognised all the letters of the alphabet about 6 months ago. They all develop at an individual pace. Don't be hard on yourself, you are doing much more then I am with my 3 year old. Just gently encourage her, don't put to much pressure on it.
She is 3. Let her play theres lots of years of school and learning and reading and writing ahead for her and she doesn't need to worry about these things until then. For now let her play and do not make her hate 'learning' or think she is bad at it as that is so untrue.
From a primary teacher too.
Ummmm.
I'm a teacher and I have 10 year old students that don't know the ABC.
The stuff you're describing is expected outcomes by the end of kindergarten.
Stop stressing. The main thing kids her age need to learn is how to play.
My son has only just got the grips on his abc and his name and his in pre school. Let her be a child for alittle longer they are expected to do so much when they go to school.
Expecting way too much mumma.
My son is also 3.5, and has no interest in learning.
He has zero attention span, so hard to "teach" him.
He doesn't know colours, can identify a couple of numbers, doesn't know the alphabet.
WAY too young to write names etc.
if you would like to encourage her and learn, big w have flash cards for $4. (A wide variety).
I've just bought my son a pack of "shapes, colours & numbers".
Knows all the shapes, but struggles with the rest. Which is fine.
Whoa mumma, stop! Give yourself a break! I have a 13 year old, a 6 year old and a very nearly 5 year old... My youngest can't write her name, she can't read, she can't count very high, but she CAN dance, she can sing, she can paint, she gives the best cuddles, and is just an amazing little person! Her siblings were both reading/writing/doing basic addition at her age, she has no interest... But, that's what school is for... Relax! Teach her how to be a happy, healthy, lovely little person, and the rest will come when she's ready... You're not failing your children at all...
Stop putting so much pressure on your little girl and stop putting so much pressure on yourself! You are so not failing lovely!
There is no rush for her to learn her ABCs or her name. My son is the same age and he has no interest at all! I wont be having him start school until the year he turns 6 so he'll have another 2.5 years to pick it up before he starts school :)