Hi IM's,
A sensitive question re: secondary infertility.
I need to know there is light at the end of the tunnel...my husband and I have 2 kids but desperately being trying for our 3rd for almost 4 years and for the last 6 months we have had 2 failed rounds of IVG and so our journey is over. I am exhausted emotionally and physically. It has consumed our lives for a long time and I am shattered and struggling to comprehend the feeling my family is not yet complete and now never will be. I know I have 2 kids and I'm incredibly grateful that not everyone who suffers infertility has children in the end but the grief is still consuming me. Has anyone been through this? What helped you move on....
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It's normal to feel that way. Some people have 6 kids and still feel sad that their family isn't complete the way they wanted it. You deserve to be upset just as much as you want to be.
It will take time but you will feel less sad as time goes on. And you never know, it might happen as a surprise anyway. These things do happen! Xx
Secondary infertility is shit - plain and simple. We've been there, slightly different story but after 3 years, about to start IVF we conceived naturally. I honestly don't think anything anyone says will help. You will need to get there on your own. It might take longer than you'd like, but as they say, time heals all wounds. I know there wasn't anything anyone could say or do that helped me. Once I started to be ok, genuinely ok with the fact that we might not have any more, that's when it happened. You'll feel differently when the time is right for you. And no one can understand what it's like for you personally as each journey is different. All the best x