I'm resenting my step son he's 6 and has never respected me we have had full care for 12 months and nothing has changed he's been diagnosed with adhd and odd his mum hates me and makes that very clear as after visits he comes back worse my partner his father has quite work and I've since found out we r expecting court says we can't cut her out even though they see it's her causing drama but because she's getting help for her mental health it's ment to be all good I'm at loss at what to do but fighting him every day is getting thin to the point I've thought about moving with my son we have put step son first for months and it's only making everyone else Moody I don't get to see my family if step sons around as he also thinks it's ok to touch others yes we have gone to counciling and still he says so what it don't hurt
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Honestly, I think once you resent the child it's time to go. He is a child and none of this is his fault. He had no choice in how any of the adults behave or act in his life, he doesnt have the choice to opt out. He doesn't choose to have multiple disabilities.
I know raising children with behavioural challenges is extremely challenging at times. I do it every day. But I've never resented my son, Ever and I wouldn't want someone in my life who resented my son. His home should be his soft place to fall and that is especially important when a child faces challenges every where else they go.
Do you know anything about his conditions? I suggest joining a support group for families like yours. You can join a local MyTime group get funding for respite etc. I wouldn't up and leave a relationship where a child has a condition such as ODD oppositional defiance disorder which is where children are defiant of the people in charge of them. Where they don't do what they are told or listen to what they are told. Where these children can create havoc in a home. Living with it is very possible when you work on a management plan. Please look into it. You can resent you step child but if your step child can feel it of course he is going to be worse.