Hi IM,
I currently have two children (almost 2yo & 4mo). We have just found out we are pregnant with number 3 (6th pregnancy, 3x Angels).
Anyway, I am in complete shock. Due to health issues, the chances of bubs surviving to full term are 50/50 (apart from the usual 1st trimester stats).
I am terrified of having another bubs. I was due back to work early next year, and now (although I'll still be entitled to another bout of maternity leave), I will be returning to work pregnant (like I did after my 1st).
I am scared of having 3 children. I don't know how hubby and I could actually do it?? We struggle with two littlies who don't sleep, let alone adding a third into the mix. How the hell will I juggle everything?
Not only that.. The financial stress. We are already under strain, let alone how much more we will be with me being off work longer.
We don't know what to do and I'm feeling so stressed about it all.
I was just after the pro's and cons of having three littlies? As I said, this is a heartbreaking decision and even if we do decide to proceed, there is a high chance bubs won't make it anyway :( All seems so stressful.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated x
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Our third was a total shock and we found out when our 2nd was around 4 months, when my milk supply suddenly dropped (I was exclusively breast feeding)! There is 12 months btw them. I was so worried as I really was still recovering from a cesarean, was suffering from anxiety and had been through a health scare with my second so was still getting over the stress of all of that. Anyway... While it was such a shock and very stressful at the time... I am so glad we made the decision we did... my 9 month old baby boy is my world (along with my 2 daughters). I love absolutely everything about having 3 and don't find it too much harder than 2...a little perhaps but I find it so worth it... but that's just me!! ? My 1st was 5 when the 3rd was born..so a little older...but she was having prep orientation and getting ready to start school..so it was all pretty full on.. We coped just fine though. Hubby even returned to work a week after we came out of hospital. All you can do is what you both feel is right for you as everyone's situation is so very different, and of course there is a lot to consider in every case. All the very best.