Hello I have one little girl who is 5 and going to school next year.
I always said no to more children as i suffered post natal depression in secret for about 6 months before i spoke to someone about and i always felt i wasnt being to best mum because of the depression.
I think this contributed to not wanting another one and i was so worried about not loving another child as much as my daughter.
However now she is going to school i feel so lonely and she hasnt even gone yet.
I work and have a pretty good life and our family works so well with it just being the three of us.
My question i guess is has any body else been in this position?
And if you are an only child or only have one child do you regret not having another one? Or were you or your child lonely?
My little girl often says she wishs she had a baby brother or sister and that she isnt lucky enough to have a brother or sister. When she says this it breaks my heart.
To be honest i think i would consider having one out of the guilt my daughter puts on me but surely that cant be the right reason to consider another baby??!
Please help.
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Ok kids say they want stuff, but they have no idea about the responsibility of thse things. If she asked for a Ferrari would you feel guilty about not being able to give her one? The day our children are the ones that get up to babies in the middle of the night, breastfeed, get PND, change nappies and earn money is the day they get a vote in siblings!!!!
You have babies because you want them, not to satisfy children who have no idea about the consequences/responsibilities/risks involved.
My son (adult) is an only child, and I'm one of three children. Yes my son has been lonely sometimes and other times not. But I also remember times when I was really lonely as a child too.
So I think you have another baby if You really want one and can afford one, having a baby for any other reason is not a good idea.
I'm one of 6..
Nothing lonelier than a parent who spends little to no time with you. I forever wished to be a lonely child.
Also, don't have a child because your daughter wants a sibling. Have a child because you and your partner want one.
So no. It's not the right reason to have another. (Just remember that you could also end up with multiples. )
I used to tell my parents all the time that I want a sister. I never got one, oh well that's just life. You shouldn't have kids because your children ask for a brother or sister. Would you buy a horse because she says she wants one? You are the one who bares the responsibility not them. Only have another child because YOU and the other parent want to and if you can afford to care for them properly etc. No one else gets to make that decision for you. She will live not having a sibling.