I've been a single mum to my 5 children now for 7 months, my first 2 children are not my husbands but he raised 1 and is helping raise the other. We have 3 together.
He has them 2 afternoons a week (sometimes more) and pretty much every weekend
Im currently in a position where i have to live with my mum and niece, we have 4 kids in 1 room, my eldest cant even shut her bedroom door and my youngest sleeps with me, I'm very depressed (medicated and seeing a psych) and suffer from anxiety. I'm having a really hard time finding us a home of our own, im drowning in debt and every day is a new battle, I dont enjoy my children, i love them endlessly, have and would move mountains for them but i find my time with them to be very stressful and i just shut down, i zone out and play games on my phone or busy myself with housework. My children prefer to be with their dad, they hate coming home to me
This is not the mother i want to be but i cant pull myself out of the rut im in.
I'm considering asking my ex to take the children full time for a little while so i can get myself sorted out mentally, emotionally, financially, and so i can get back to the mum i used to be.
Any advice and thoughts welcomed
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Do what you got to do, but please discuss with your psychologist first. I don't see any issue with the kids spending more time with dad while you look after yourself and get back on track, but you want to make sure you've discussed with your psych to make sure you are thinking clearly. When we get depressed our thought processes can go wonky.