How do you introduce your child a new partner and also how do you introduce your child to his children and vice versa? And even when does it become the right time? Am I allowed to be a little selfish and let it just be me and him for awhile before we bring our children into it!?
He has two with one the same age as my child.
I am open to all honest opinions.
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My opinion, take as long as you can before introducing your kids, there kids, and new partner. Be really selfish, it's not selfish BTW it's smart.
You want to make sure you know this person and it's not just a short term thing.
Later when you both feel ready have him come around for a BBQ or something low key, where they eat and leave. Wether his kids come in that first one is up to you. Do many low key catch ups with the kids and him before moving to sleep overs.
When you do feel ready to move to sleep overs create some ground rules. I won't let my son come into bed with me and a partner for example, and I'm much stricter on nudity in the home, compared to when it's just me and the kids. It's my job to protect my kids.
Personally for me and I feel very strongly about it I wouldn't introduce me son to a new partner until after atleast a year in a relationship I'm really protective about who I have around my son so I would like to know the person really well know his temperament and all that. Also I don't want to be introducing him to someone where it's just not going to workout.
I don't think there's a set in stone right time I think as the parent you will know when a good time is. And it's not selfish at all to keep it to yourself for a while.
Be selfish and keep him to yourself! At least until you're sure he's with you for the long haul. You don't want to introduce your families then be left to pick up the pieces if it doesn't work out. I've been casually seeing someone for the past 7 months and have no plan to introduce my kids to him anytime soon. He doesn't have kids. I'm loving the time we spend together, getting to know each other without having to worry about other people. Just enjoy the time you spend together for now and worry about all the introductions later on! :)