I need advice,
I had a child to a man who raped me, and i made the mistake of telling him i was pregnant because i couldn't remember the night and he was ment to be my friend and really who wants to believe that their friends betrayed them in such a way.
Anyway, i made it clear how i felt (couldn't stand him didn't want a relationship etc) he never believed me. He has seen his daughter 4 times and she's 10months old, he isn't on the birth certificate and because he showed a complete lack of interest and his text messages caused me to have major anxiety attacks, i at first limited contact to once a month, then completely stopped replying as he wasn't interested.
Now he is sending messages telling me off for 'keeping her from' him though he has never made an effort (lives 3 hours away never made an effort to come to her always made me travel)
I'm terrified he will try and take her off me.
I'm in an extremely happy and secure relationship with my fiance my daughter is well loved and treated as his own.
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I think if you want him out of the picture you need to charge him.
I'm not sure that will look so good for you to start that after he starts for more access.
I find it a bit odd that you've had contact. Told him and given visits so far, so id say to get legal advice on what's in the best interest of the child from here. He's still her dad even if you've got a new secure relationship.
Get legal advice!
Did you write a post the other day about this but a different question completely? He cannot just take your daughter, she is the result of a rape, which I hope you filed charges for. He will have to go through mediation and if that doesn't work it will have to go in front of the courts. Stop stressing, your daughter will feel it, get some counselling to deal with what this man has done to you and work on you. Courts do not take children out of perfectly lovIng homes and give them to people they do not have a relationship with. The best he will get is visitation. If you can make it so that he has to travel to see her in the mediation agreement. Not that you have to drag her 3 hours away from everything she knows for just a few hours.