My partner & I have recently introduced our kids to each other. I have 3 boys, 11, 8 & 6. He has 2 girls, 8 & 6.
They get on amazingly, the girls are always excited to come over to see my boys and they all play great together.
However a few days ago his 6 year old daughter came out & said that my 8 year old was encouraging her to kiss my 6 year old son. She said no & came and told her dad. We told my 8 year old it wasn't appropriate and he said he was just joking around. I honestly do think he was just mucking around and being silly.
However, she has shared what happened with her mum and mum is now making out that my son is a predator. Is what my son did something I should be worried about or is it quite normal behavior for their age. The situation hasnt happened again, nor been brought up since & the daughter is still happy to come around.
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It's normal behaviour but normal behaviour that needs correcting.
To protect yourselves and the children they must be in adult view when playing at all times
I think it's normal behaviour.
I remember being about 7-8 and my brother 9-10 daring me to kiss parents friends son who was my age.
In saying that I can also see how mum would also be concerned because she wasn't present and doesn't know your sons. And it'd be scary when your daughter tells you this happened.
Perhaps some boundaries in place for the short term until they grow out of this stage like kids aren't left alone etc will help mum be more comfortable and help you know that it can't go anywhere or anything else be said
Its normal. Kids do this. My kid and neighbour friends do this to each other.
However, I did also have a mum come over to talk about something her kid had told her. We clarified it and went over how it went and the nature of it and the fact I was there and knew exactly what had happened.
I can understand it would scare her to hear her kid say this happened at another house. Maybe she needs some reassurance that there's an adult there and you're onto it, its not on, it was dealt with clearly and quickly
I think it's normal but you definately need to have a talk with your sons about it so they know that it isn't acceptable behaviour. Honestly if I were the mother of the girls I would be upset too.