I have a 15 yr old son who generally gets on well with my male partner of 14 yrs, but one morning my 15 yr old punch our 11 yr old in the face and his excuse was the 11 yr old was annoying him. So the step dad got up out of bed yelling out very aggressively to the step son & threatening him with "u wanna fight come fight me, then yelling at the 11 yr old to fight back"
My 15 yr old went in his room shut his door. My 11 yr old was just crying. I was cranky at all 3 of them but feel that I have to pick sides. My kids especially my oldest has seen a lot of dramas in his life but he really is generally a good kid. My 11 yr knows how to work it to have everything turn into a drama. I'm really angry at everyone cause I don't condone the way an adult speaks to a 15yr old in a threatening manner I'm mad that the kids fighting turned into a big drama & had to call police to get the dad removed. Now my kids r all crying & hating me for getting their dad removed but my oldest son is happy the step dad is gone. We have been together for 16 yrs. I don't know really what I'm asking but maybe other people's stories might help me if have been in a similar situation?
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Oh geez, he is in a parent role he acted way out of bounds and if police had to remove him, you did the right thing. You dont need to overthink or choose sides. You need to make it very clear to him that him becoming violent is not the answer. I know a few men who would have handled their teen boys the same way (not to the point of police involvment though) but that doesnt mean its the right way.
Was this a once off experience with your partner acting this way?
So much for a united front. You just kicked your husband in the guts for over reacting and made your 15yr old top dog for Punching his little brother in the Face! How horrible for your husband! and best of luck with your teenager!