Hi there ?
I need to make a post to gather some much needed advice please!
My fiance and I own a business. We have 2 young girls, ages 3.5 and almost 2.
We have always worked the business together, for the last 4 years since we became a couple (From me working for him - To me working with him).
Just recently, this work and life balance had a massive clash of heads! So we decided that I would be the stay at home mum (Which I must add that I've longed to do so I can be with my girls ?) this gives me time to work on my personal issues of slight case of depression and my diet and smoking habit I'm longing to give up! And my fiance just focuses on himself and he run the business. We are in a slow progression of me handling the books and paperwork side from home, plus raising our daughters, housework etc...
Everything is looking great! But, the issue: I have trouble getting out of bed ?
Every morning, I lay in longer than he. Our girls wake around 6.30-7am... My fiance wakes at the same time. The girls get up, have a play and ask daddy for everything. My fiance struggles to wake me and to get me up and going! Normally he gets me up at 8am. When I get up however, I need a morning coffee before I can even comprehend breakfast.
This sounds really bad. I feel so bad when he addresses this issue every morning!
I have worked hard all my life up until having the children. I used to milk cows for a living, early 3am starts and late 9pm finishes... Gee, at one stage I never slept over a weekend working 2 jobs lol... This has only really become a big issue this last year!! My depression may play some part but honestly, I just feel so tired!
I have always thought that mummy's are the first up and the last down....
I don't want to hinder (or burden) my fiance with this issue. I need to resolve this, please!!! And need to take action!!!
So mummy's, how do you get out of bed??? What drives you to get up??? Is there a secret motivation morning ritual out there that I'm unaware of ??? Excluding coffee ?
I would really like some ideas and advice please! And anything would be helpful vs nothing ?
Would be interesting also just to see who else struggles with this or is it just me?
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Honestly, get your depression sorted. Depression doesn't just play a part, it plays a BIG part!
Also look at what is happening with your sleep. Are you getting quality sleep? Do you have sleep apnea. Are you going to bed early enough for you? Are you up to children in the middle of the night?
Look at the entire picture.
If your partner wasn't there, would you get up? Send him away for a night, see what happens.
Hey I struggle with this but for some reason only on wkends
during the wk hubby leaves early and I get up and get kids out door by 6am so I can go to work and never sleep through alarm or kids crying but come wkends I don't seem to wake to anything and hubby does it all until I get up about 8.30.
I've felt so bad he takes up the slack on wkends when we both work and should be shared.
The thing that's started to work for me is on wkends I set alarms on my phone from 7 and they go off every 5 mins for an hr. By about the 4-5 alarm I've woken and get up to face day
While a lot of it can be depression, some of it can be just habit too. I wake early because it's what I'm used to now. On a work day once my alarm goes off I'm boom - out of bed like a 20 year old chasing a Pokemon through a park at midnight. If I have to get up before 5am I set two alarms, the first is my normal alarm and the second smashes my brain with a bit of the Drop Kick Murphys at full volume. Much as I love the Dropkick Murphys the only time I want to hear them before 5am is if I'm still up from a Friday night bender on Saturday morning. Needless to say, I always get up on the first alarm but I still always set that second just in case, it helps me sleep better for some reason (going to sleep knowing I can't possibly sleep in I suppose). So crack the habit, no matter how much you don't want to - get up at 6 and start your day with a shower, then a coffee and see if it helps. Also, get your levels tested. Low vitamin and mineral levels can effect how you face your day too.
Wouldn't hurt to have a chat with your gp and make sure you are not low in iron, b vitamins, or something similar.
Also make sure you go to bed at a reasonable time....
Im not good in mornings. Get your sleep, wake up ans get going, i do coffee and slouch around and it doesnt help. Do some stretches and get going amd you wake up and have energy ( i just dont want to do it) but most of all, its so unfair to your partner amd hes telling you so just make the choice that three or four mornings a week are your mornings, and just do it, stop choosing to stay in bed and let your partner do it every time.
I was going through the same issue and i started taking a magnesium suppliment and it worked wonders