Hi ims
Im not sure how to ask my question. I feel i give my everything to help and be there for "friends". Not matter what is if I can help I will do it. Ive taken phone calls at midnight, babysat, given them a place to live, a shoulder to cry on after relationship breakdowns, being an ear for them if they need to talk, anything I can do to help someone I do it. How do I stop? How do I say no? How do I stop being so nice to people who I think of as a friend but always get hurt. Im sick of laying down my heart and soul and just keep getting hurt? How do I stop the guilt after saying no?
How do I say No??
How do I say No??
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You practice! It's the only way I got there. And also I started to see my worth as more important than anyone else's.
Easy, you just say no!
I am the same friend. I give my all in friendships, and have finally realised that people only use me. I have maybe a handful of good, genuine, true friends and the rest just use me for my car, fuel, money, spare room etc.
I started saying no to lifts, my spare room, etc. and all of a sudden, 3 weeks has gone by and I have not heard from anyone - not once!!! How odd!? Why? Because they're shit, using friends that do nothing but sponge off other people, thats why.
Life is SO much better for me now. Less stress, hurt, worry and anger. Its good, and you will be so much happier! Good luck x