My 8 year old stepson has been searching youtube for very inappropriate things. He has searched for "how to insert a penis", "Virgins", "sex", "how to have sex for the first time", "how to get any woman to have Sex with you" etc! I am extremely uncomfortable with this, and when I mentioned to my partner he said "maybe he's just curious". Sooo, if you have an 8 year boy, I'd love to hear your comments on this behaviour.
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Firstly I'd be asking him if he has any questions about sex. What he wants to know and why he wants to know. Better an open convo with you than looking on the Internet. Then you can go from there.
But it's quite normal to be curious but it's important to assertain why he is curious about those particular aspects.
It's also important to let him know that although it's ok to be curious that he isn't old enough to be having sex!
I've been thinking on this a bit since I read it and replied to this question.
Some of the terms he has been searching for have me worried. It's normal for kids to be curious, but I don't think most 8 year olds know about 'virgins' etc.
Or are thinking about how to get a girl to have sex.
I would be concerned and be watching very closely to see what your child has access to. What is he watching on TV, movies, iPad etc. Unless you have taught him those terms where did he learn them???they are not exactly the normal swear words.
You need to be having a stern word that girls his age can not have sex. I'd be watching very closely and seeking professional support going forward.
I don't know what is normal and what isn't, but I have an 8 year old boy and I will tell you where he is at. He just recently found out where babies come out of their mum and was shocked and horrified. Sex is not a word in his vocabulary, he has absolutely no understanding of it. The other night he was kissing his teddy bear like they do in home and away and giggling hysterically. He gets little crushes on girls at school, thats it. Take what you want from that info and I hope you get to the bottom of it.
Children are learning about sexual education at school a whole lot earlier now. Obviously age appropriate information. My daughter now 9, has been gradually learning about this since year 2! She has also gone on you tube and searched the word sex after friends with older brothers and sisters were discussing it and her curiosity got the better of her. When I found out I panicked, thinking the worst. After seeing a Gp and a psychologist I was told to sit her down and talk to her about what it is, what's appropriate and what's not. I can't stress enough though not to punish them for there curiosity. Talk to him please. We did, and Our daughter went through a lengthy stage of anxiety thinking every time she had accidentally touched someone (bumping into, even playing with her brother) that she was doing something inappropriate.
Oh my gosh, my almost 8 year old has absolutely zero concept of sex! I'd be wondering and worried as to what your stepson has been subjected to. This is not normal or curious behaviour for a small child.
I would be wondeing how he gained his curiousity. Dad needs to talk to him and make sure he hasn't been interfered with or anytning like that. Even if it's just someome older telling him about sex it's good to get down to the source. But he really just needs 'the talk', explain it, and explain it's for adults. Also, add restrictions to youtube and get a parental software that prevents porn from popping up!