I'm a single mother of a gorgeous 1 year old little girl. I have an umbilical hernia op this month and I'm really stressing out about my daughter not being by my side. We have such a close bond and have never been separated from eachother. She's not very social with anyone else and has only just warmed up to my sister who is oldee than me. She won't even look at my brother in law.... My mum and dad are close with her of course but my daughter prefers mummy. My sister will be driving me to the hospital and taking my daughter to her place and I'm really worried that she is going to scream in the car because I won't be there. I'm hoping I come out ok after the anaesthetic so I won't be in overnight. It's a day surgery op so I'll be in and out. I'm really worried about my baby girl :(
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It's one day, your daughter will be fine. Your sister will look after your daughter really well and your daughter will form a closer relationship with your sister.
I bet youll find she is just fine. Of course she will be just fine, safe, loved and cared for, and she will be happy too, even thiugh she might cry when you leave her if its the first couple of times, it doesnt last long once she realised aunty is pretty interesting.
It is hard but rest assured she will be fine. I had day surgery for the same thing and a single mum. They kept me in overnight as I had it done in the afternoon and wanted me to rest. My daughter was 3 and my parents looked after her. One bit of advice though - you will be very tender for a few weeks and shouldnt bend over. I bought one of those mobility sticks to get me through those first days should I have to pick something up from the floor. Take things very slowly and don't push yourself. Recovery is quick but at the same time it is an operation so you still need to be careful. Also have a jar of prunes in the fridge to get your system going again - hurts like hang that first time but the prunes were way better than the stool softner tablets you can get. Also stock up on panadol or nurofen but the dr can advise you on that. All the best and take care. Oh and I had also bought her a little present (a cute hairbrush from the hosp gift store) for her as I missed her terribly!
Totally normal to feel this way.
Might I suggest you do a trial run before surgery so that your daughter can be comfortable with whom ever will be caring for her?
Then this will give you peace of mind.
Best of luck with your op.
I'm sure your daughter will be just fine.