*A bit TMI and could offend some.* My partner keeps on to me about sending him "sexy nude" or semi nude pics. He has taken pics of me because ive just given in to all the nagging (im not comfortable with them) but he just keeps going on and on until he gets it or he gets the phone out during sex and takes it when im faced away. Im very over it and no matter how many times i say "im not comfortable no" he will sulk ect. I let him watch porn thats fine by me but he insits he needs these pics of me. I guess its "nice" he wants me but im just not ok with it. His told me how his mates at work share "pics" of their mrs around and he swears he doesnt but how do i believe that? I bet the other guys say that to their mrs aswell.
Do you guys think im being a prude? Thanks Mummys.
Am i being a prude?
Am i being a prude?
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Wtf to taking photos during sex, when youve said no. My bet is he wants them to share around too.
Nope screw that for a joke. He is pressuring you to do something you have said no to and taking pictures during sex without your permission.
No I would not trust him not to share pictures with his mates and id be questioning if I wanted to continue this relationship.
Ever heard the saying no means no? He has massive boundary issues, him and his mates sound like jerks.
PS I have let a partner take pics of me and I have sent pics. But it was under my full control and with someone I trusted deeply. This does not sound like one of those situations and I know if I'd said 'no' that would have been respected.
Omg no way would have photos taken. You are not being a prude. If your not comfortable your not (I know I would never be)
No you are not a prude... You are protecting yourself !! I never do naked or semi naked pics either ... I gave in to one partner ... And then found he was sending my pics to mates !! He tried justifying it by saying he was proud of me !!
It made me feel horrid !! I will never ever have any pics of me taken ever again !!
Do what ever you want and don't be talked into it
Look bottom line if you aren't comfortable with something your partner should accept that not be trying to force the issue. Honestly the way he's acting is a deal breaker for me I would be outta there so fast his head would spin!
You're definitely not being a prude!
I'm iffy on naked photos since an ex of mine snapped a naked photo of me without me realizing. I basically had to threaten to have him done for child pornography (as I was under 18 when the photo was taken) to get him to remove it.
My husband's friends are also very open about sharing as well, so I was even more hesitant because of that.
My husband never once pressured me for photos. He also never once bragged about things we'd done together (even though his friends regularly insulted him for thinking he was getting nothing).
Its a little thing called respect, and your partner is being a pig.
I wouldn't trust him one bit.
I'd smash the phone. I know I can be a bitch of a thing at the best of times but someone taking pics when they were told not to...
I refused to allow my ex to take photos of me, because he used the photos that he had taken of his previous ex to attempt to blackmail her when they broke up (she refused to cave and good on her) he was so proud that he hung onto those photos, I demanded that he delete them but I have no idea if he actually did. He justified the behaviour by telling me that she had cheated on him and was cruel during the marriage.
Now because he couldn't use photos to blackmail me he is instead using emails that I sent him (yes I was stupid enough to message him private stuff). My point being is that if they want to act like a jerk they will find something to use to do it, messages, emails, photos, letters..... hell just rumours that they start (that was what he did to me previously, I had no idea it had even happened until AFTER we broke up this time - we dated twice and he was married in between those relationships).
To say i have no trust left would be an understatement. Personally i would be getting rid of every copy you can of those photos and refusing to let him take any more because I can tell you from experience that you never really know a person until you break up with them. THAT is when you see who they really are.
He doesn't respect you not wanting to and takes sneaky pics. I'd definitely not allow them as he would probably share them if pressured. It's so wrong. I have done the nude pics for hubby but when I was no longer comfortable he stopped even though I know he still wants them
Your partner is an idiot who has no respect for you or your decisions. I'd take his phone and delete all the sexy photos of yourself from it and tell him if he EVER takes another photo of you like that without your permission that you will shove the phone fair up his arse. I am so angry for you I feel sick. You are worth so much more than the way he is treating you about this.
He in a manipulator and a liar. I don't say this lightly but please leave him. He is a disgusting pathetic excuse for a man and he is disrespecting you. He says he doesn't show his mates but then why is he so desperate to get photos of you ? Because he is showing his mates. Do not put up with this. stay strong and don't let him boss you around.