Why do mum's get offended when they find out another mother has a son that is circumcised?
I have my son circumcised and i have been abuse, yelled at, been called a bad mother and even been told ive mutilated my own son because of it. The one thing i dont get a all is that in some religions its normal to be circumcised, do we get abused over that to? what if my son is jewish, would it be any different? My little man is happy, healthy and so well loved, I honestly think that if i squished his face into mine any harder his head would pop off!! I love him more than words could say and hearing things like "you've muterlated your own son" really disheartens me and i hope no other mother had had deal with this but if you have know your not the only one :).
I really think that mums need to stop being so hard on other mums for their personal preference in regards to there children, pro-circumcision or not..
Pro-circumcision or not!
Pro-circumcision or not!
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I'm not for it, but I believe if it's the parents choice to have it done then so be it. My son was circumcised a year and a bit ago because he couldn't retract his foreskin. I would never have done it otherwise. My new partner is circumcised and would like is to get our boys (if we have one) done so that they are the same. I've been with both circumcised and non circumcised guys and I honestly don't find them any different. Each to their own lovely mumma ignore the haters. If they start yelling at you check their cherubs ears and start yelling at them if their little girls have earring because surely they wouldn't brutilize their own children in that manner.
I think it's because 1. Routine Circumcision isn't recommended by any health or medical organisation in the world. 2. The boy will experience pain and trauma at a young age. 3. It is a human rights violation, it is an amputation of a normal healthy body part and we don't routinely amputate any other body part that doesn't actually have a problem. 4. It is useful, it has around 20000 nerve endings and 16 functions. 5. It is sexist, we would never do this to a girl.
I agree, nobody should call you names or tell you that you don't love your son. In my opinion no doctors should be able to offer it unless there is true medical need, it actually goes against their code of ethics and they could possibly be sued. It's not too late to learn some facts; the whole network and dr momma is a great place to start.
What about people who get circumcised because of religion?
Religion shouldn't be carved into anyone's body. Religion shouldn't be imposed on a baby especially on a baby's penis.
The American academy of paediatrics actually do recommend infant male circumcision. Your sources "the whole network" and "dr momma" are intactivist websites where they make up statistics - some what like the nerve endings, I've seen that number magically grow from 4000 to 20,000 over the past 4-5yrs yet there is not one single shred of evidence to support that. Same with the 16 functions of the foreskin - that one is actually hilarious, if you break done the stupid memes intactivists post there's literally one - to cover the glans of the penis, why? Reason unknown.
It does not go against any code of ethics for any medical professional. You're right it's not too late to learn but don't read propaganda and actually think you've learned something because you haven't.
I think its a topic where if you believe its gen ital mutilation its difficult to respect a persons choice to do that. Personally I would fight to change the law rather than abuse an individual for any choice they're allowed to make.
I dont think anyone has a right to know whether a child that is not theirs is circumised or not. In saying that I only have daughters. However my sister has 2 sons (2 different marriages/ fathers) and 1 isnt and 1 is. Her children her desicion but I do understand her reasonings behind both desicions. I say just ignore them and dont let them upset you
I suppose it's the same when I hear of parents who have engaged in female circumcision. I find both practices quite shocking.
Although I don't hurl abuse at those who circumcise there boys, I'm always taken aback.
I just can't relate to the thinking, I don't understand the thought process. It never occurred to me to seek out circumcision for my son, no doctor ever offered or suggested it, so to me it seems like something you actively have to seek out to have done in Australia, so totally uneccessary.
It's not even something that occurred to us to research. I figured if it was necessary Drs would bring it up.
I wouldn't add something to my baby they couldn't change later (that wasn't medically needed) so why would I take something they couldn't add back??
How are people finding out your child is circumcised?
I mean unless you go around telling people the condition of his penis, or are letting people that close to his penis I just don't see how people would notice!
I mean unless people are changing his nappy or dressing him how would people get that close?
It's just not something I discuss with people either way so.....
My boys are circumcised. I guess I am a big fat child abuser. Something I have in common with my mil, she must be a child abuser for circumcising my husband too. Haters are gonna hate! I am an amazing mum who has raised amazingly healthy and happy kids. Worry about your own children haters, I don't tell you how to raise them, so mind your own business in regards to how I raise mine!
Ummmm, its nobody's effing business what you do with your child! Stand up and start telling people to mind their own business!
I have two Son's to a previous marriage that are not circumcised - BUT - my ex husband is 31 this year and suffers from Phimosis (he cant retract his foreskin) but is too ashamed to go and get circumcised. This worries me, for when my Son's get older, but I will cross that bridge IF and when I come to it.
Fast forward to now. I have a new, absolutely amazing man and we are expecting our first child together. He is Indigenous, and it is in their culture to be circumcised at a young age during ceremony. If the baby we are expecting turns out to be a boy, I am very much respectful of his culture and traditions and if he wants our Son to be circumcised, then so be it. I dont care what anyone says!
Because it's a horrible thing to do in this day and age. I don't understand why anyone would do it unless for medical reasons.
I'm going to be brutally honest here and say that questions like this honestly serve no purpose other than to pit mother against mother is a cruel game of 'mother knows best'. Don't look to the outside world for acceptance of your choices. Look inside. Know that the choice you made is your's and with that choice comes the consequence of people being nasty and opinionated about your choice. People should exercise more care and diplomacy when facing opinions they do not agree on but sadly people can't help but judge. Peace comes from within so don't look for it without.... <3
Agreed. I'm glad I've come form a family where all the males are circumcised.
I was fully circumcised with no loose skin remaining at all when I was 9, done at my mothers request after divorcing my father, who was against doing it to me at birth. Mom is very avid in her support of the procedure and thinks all boys should be, like she thinks its amazing or something, and fed me all the usual hygeine cleanliness bs, but I dont think that was the reason why she did it. My grandmother was against it and I heard them arguing over it and mom just kept saying how much better it looked cut, this screwed with my head... I remember being physically and emotionally miserable for weeks until a few months had passed and my glans became desensitized. It feels so unnatural.. you can feel something is missing down there and the feeling of what was an inside part hanging in the open is permanently uncomfortable. Dried out, being constantly chafed, major loss of sensation that some people hilariously try to deny, when it is common freaking sense that sensation is lost when the nerves to most of the outer penile skin have been severed, I wish to God my mother didn't scare me into this as a child, it feels so wrong, it was mine...