Hey mums, please be nice. But i feel like im over motherhood. I have 2 young children and a husband but feel like im always grumpy, frustrated and getting cross. Hubby and i dont always see eye to eye on discipline, my elder child always seems to be acting out, getting cross and attitude (he doesnt have any behaviour issues e.g adhd). My younger child has had a few health issues and is forever sick. I study full time aswell. I just wanna be this happy person again. Im sick of fighting with the child and my husband. Just want my happy marriage back. I always wanted to be a mum but know that i am a mum i feel like im a shit mum and dont deserve to be one.
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I have two young sons.
I'm a shit mum too. Haha.
We all have days were we get over parenting and just want to leave.
Don't be so hard on yourself, you're doing a brilliant job!
Here is the deal, there is no such thing as a good mum all of the time. We all get warn down, at some point. We all loose our temper at some point, we all feel like we f%cked up at some point.
We are raising kids in a time with the highest expectation ever on what motherhood should be. We spend more 1:1 time with our children than our mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers ever did. Motherhood for them was housework, and sending there kids out to play (with children returning for meals). Kids walked themselves to school when I was a kid from 5years old. There was more pressure than ever to enrol our kids in extra-curricular activities and provide material possessions our grandparents couldn't dream about. My mum shared a bed with 2 siblings! Now we torrure ourselves if kids share a room.
Of course we are going to snap, crackle and pop! We are busting out buts and to provide mythical perfect childhoods that are unattainable and it's time for us to relax, forgive ourselves and stop overthinking our parenting.
It's time to see how lucky our kids are.
I was in the exact same situation. I have two young kids my oldest was constantly throwing tantrums and screaming and my younger one has been constantly sick for the past six months and I also do bookwork from home. I felt like I was always grumpy and yelling and I just didn't want to be around my kids and my husband any more . I joined a gym three weeks ago and put my kids in to creche and go for coffee one afternoon a week when my husband gets home from work. I feel like a different person now that I get a little time to myself . I also sat down with my husband and worked out a discipline plan that starts with 5 to 10 minutes on a chair to calm down and set punishments that we have agreed on previously. it has done a lot for my household as I think my husband has a better understanding of what I deal with every day and the kids seem happier now we are not snapping at each other all the time .we also spend one on one time with our older child and it's made a huge difference. Stick with it, I'm sure you're fantastic parent and I hope that this has helped you.