Hi. I'm after advice on relocation interstate and the personal processea involved. The father of my child is a great dad and sees her weekends and is in a relationship with a new partner. I'm hoping to cement my relationship by moving to where he lives. 55min flight away from current location. He cant move here as he has a Defence contract for next 2 years. It wouldnt be an immediate move but it is something that I'd like to happen. The relationship between our child and dad wouldn't change to much as we would fly fortnightly to him so he can have her for the weekend and all holidays. I have mentioned it to him and he was as expected upset but didnt say no. He knows id never keep her from him but i think he thought if i left I'd leave her with him. I've always been primary carer. We have no legal arrangements at rhis time. Just a mutual agreement. He is welcome to see her whenever but rarely does except his weekends and he works 65+ hrs a week. Has her whole life. Like I said its a process that will be taken slowly It's not a rushed thing.
Thanks ladies
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I think you really need to see a solicitor, because he could very well decide he doesn't like that you moved away and get orders in place to bring you back. My relationship with my ex is not amicable, he sees his kids 4 days a month- maybe- and has no desire to spend more time with them. My partner and I were offered 3 fantastic job opportunities, 1 in WA, one in NT, one is southern QLD (currently in Nth QLD) my ex said no and we can't go, without giving up my children. Also, please remember if your partner stays in defence his next postings could be interstate or overseas. So whatever orders you get in place you'll need to stick too!
I wish you luck IM
Oh dont worry I havent moved and wont move until its an agreed or court allowed. Thats why Im asking for advice on how to go about it.
Thank you for you help
Oh this made me so sad reading all these comments saying it's selfish- what absolute nonsense! I wonder how many of these women have been in a situation where their exes location gets to control their whole lives ?
I am also in a similar situation although not for a relationship but better quality of life- job opportunities, family support etc wanting to move from nsw to qld. My son is almost 5 and it is something I have wanted to do since he was a baby- unfortunately his dad is in a position that he would not "allow" it without court orders which has caused so much stress and made me feel very trapped. You shouldn't be forced to live in a certain place until your child is 18 because of an ex. So unfair, we deserve to be happy in our lives as well!
If you're serious about this I would speak to a solicitor and let the dad know that you would never want to keep his child from him but you also deserve to be happy!
I had to come back and comment after seeing so many harsh comments on Facebook. You're obviously trying to do the right thing by your child, her dad and for yourself. A tricky balance!