I'm wondering if my partner may be infertile or weather his been super lucky In the past! Back story..
Been together a bit over a year and want a baby, I have two children from a previous relationship, 1st one was a 100% surprise (blessing, but big surprise!!) I was on the pill and took it religiously! (The pill is the only contraception I can take btw, I've tried everything and it results in rapid weight loss and a stay in hospital.) my secind, we started trying and I fell pregnant straight away, but when we got the due date we found out I was in fact, on the pill. Fast forward, new relationship, my partner has a past, had short 6-12 month relationships, all girls been on the pill, aswell as using the pullout method, no pregnancies from his side. Now I was on the pill (one I've never taken before) we have been trying for 6 weeks, I know it's such a short time, but I'm wondering if he may be infertile because his never had a scare and I practically fall pregnant just freaking thinking about it! I'm SO fertile. His not young either, 30 years old, even when I was on the pill he wasn't doing the pull out method on top. Has he been super lucky? Has this been the pill to ACTUALLY work for me, or is there a chance his infertile? How would we go about finding out? Would it cost an arm and leg? Please understand I am well aware it's such a short time to try and people try for years but I can't help worrying because I just have this AWFUL feeling!!!
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I think you are thinking too much!
Firstly from what you have said,his exes were on the pill which works for the vast majority of women. So that rules that one out.
Secondly infertility can hit anyone at anytime! So just because you produced two children very easily doesn't mean you can't develop infertility at some point.
Thirdly the mix of partners can make a difference, but can both be fertile.
Fourth it's only been six weeks since you went off the pill!!!
Just relax. Give it time.
Just because first 2 were instant doesn't mean this one will be. No dr will look at testing after 6wks you would've only had 1 maybe 2 times in there that you ovulated and maybe you weren't active those days.
I never had a scare either and my husband never had any scares with previous partners. The pill worked and did its job. We have 3 kids now.
The fact he hasn't had a scare doesn't mean anything at all.
Yep if they weren't serous relationships it's quite possible his partners wouldn't have disclosed a 'scare'.
I only told my partner at the time, once I'd confirmed pregnancy as we weren't serious. No way was I going to freak a someone out for nothing lol
oh my god how could he never have gotten anyone pregnant-you sound so surpried.
the very tone of your question is odd.
together just over a year and trying for six weeks.. yeah not really long enough in either case.