I am really starting to think something is wrong with me.. everytime i make a friendship with someone i get sh*#ed on i bend over backwards to help and be there for them but its never in return i always say never again but it always happens as thats the type of person i am and i think people just take advantage of that :-(..
It really brings me down and makes me want to shut off from the world and not bother anymore..
Is it me??
Is it me??
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This I'd hard but you do need to learn to become less accomodating to people. People will respect you for it and it will protect you from users.
If you do help someone, do it because you have no expectations for the friendship or otherwise.
I am the sort that would have given the shirt off my back. I've learnt to channel my generosity to people who are in genuine need, and people who I've built a relationship with first. Versus doing nice things hoping the relationship will develop.
I'm going to be completely honest...it's not you, people are just dicks! Although, maybe you could try to be less willing to help people - I've had to take a step back and learn this myself!
Wow, it's like I had written this myself.. It's hard not to feel down and feel like it's your fault when it happens all the time! I think people just see how loyal we are and take advantage of that!